Mum not really that interested

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• OneNdouble

  Jan 7, 2008 10:08AM

  Oh honey she may be finding it hard to excpet that her little girl is actually having a baby! have u tried talking to her about how u feel? she may not be aware of how she's making u feel.
  Hormones may be playing apart but don't right it off just cause of that, cause it'll just build up and get u more upset!
  xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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• gsmummy55

  Jan 7, 2008 10:13AM

  I can sympathise with you that you didn't bond with your mother as until a few years ago, I was the same. I also have a younger sister and they used to get on well despite my sister being a devil child! It's the other way round now, but I do think being the oldest daughter is hard - I'm quite resentful actually after years of babysitting and taking the blame when one of the younger ones spilt something or ran off :roll: This is my first and he'll be treated like a prince lol.
  
  Maybe you should go round and see your mother, if that's possible, or invite her round? She probably doesn't realise that you feel left out. My mum's being the total opposite and cant do enough for me, she won't even let me cook in case I burn myself! So it can go both ways I suppose!
  
  I hope things are better soon and enjoy your 4d scan, still got a few weeks before mine x

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• StrawberryGirl

  Jan 7, 2008 10:22AM

  My mum admitted last week that she'd always been quite cold towards babies and was quite worried how she'd be when my little one was born (11 weeks tomorrow) but she's surprised herself by just how much she loves him.... sometimes it's a shock to realise that your own mum isn't particularly maternal, and in my experience being pregnant makes you rethink all of your relationships.
  In my case I spent a lot of time thinking about my parents and how they had been, my relationships with both of them. I think it's all part of coming to terms with becoming a mum yourself.
  I didn't think my Mum was interested in the pregnancy part of it but she's very different now he's here.....
  Hopefully the nearer your due date you get the more she'll take an interest.
  Tracey
  xx

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• dottie_pottie

  Jan 7, 2008 10:35AM

  Hi I understand where you are coming from. My Mum is putting on an award winning oscar performance regarding my unborn baby. She doesnt really want to know due to who the father is. My sister nearly had to brow beater her in M&S last week to buy somethings for my soon to be baby. She makes out she is interested so that she can pass the information on but truth be known she doesnt want to be a grannie to this one. I've got past carring, as it upsets me and feel that it is her loss.
  She cant stand the fact that everyone else is excited about me having a baby as I was told it most likely would never happen.
  I'm sure yours will come round.
  

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• LolaP

  Jan 8, 2008 2:01PM

  Thanks everyone - you all have such good advice, I felt like there wasn't really anyone I could talk to about this and just wanted to have a bit of a rant but like always you all really help me! I'm feeling much better now - spent a couple of days feeling really low and had a good old cry about it and now I think like a few of you have said - it's her loss. I can't really talk to her about it as she has a track record of not really listening and then taking a funny. I'd rather have a superficial relationship with her than none at all and hopefully she'll come round like you've all said when my little girl (just found out today) arrives. Seeing my beautiful girl at my 3d scan has made me think that she is the only thing that matters and my mum can be as involved as she wants to be! Thanks everyone for dragging me back to sense and mental health! Laura xxx

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