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Mum not really that interested
Hi Everyone
I'm a bit p*ssed off that my mum is not really that interested in the fact that I'm pregnant. She had promised to do all my shopping with me but keeps coming up with excuses, She's been round to see me once since I've been off (I've been off work with severe joint pain since 20 weeks - now 27+5) and that was only for half an hour and we live in the same village. She's coming to my 4d scan with me tomorrow but that's with my oh and my dad and she invited us round on xmas day. She doesn't work either and my dad's away a lot. Am I being totoally paranoid??? I've always been the black sheep a bit as I'm the oldest so did the terrible teens first although no where near as bad as my little sis did them!!!(just me and little sis) and I've always had the slight impression that I'm not good enough.
She's also told me that she didn't bond with me when I was born and she was never very maternal - but she has a wonderful relationship with my little sister and they spend loads of time together.
It's probably the hormones but I just feel like she doesn't want to spend any time alone with me - she seems really excited about the baby though and keeps talking about looking after the baby loads. Am I a paranoid freak? Has anyone else experenced this? Should I just suck it up and stop being such a whinger?
Laura xx
I'm a bit p*ssed off that my mum is not really that interested in the fact that I'm pregnant. She had promised to do all my shopping with me but keeps coming up with excuses, She's been round to see me once since I've been off (I've been off work with severe joint pain since 20 weeks - now 27+5) and that was only for half an hour and we live in the same village. She's coming to my 4d scan with me tomorrow but that's with my oh and my dad and she invited us round on xmas day. She doesn't work either and my dad's away a lot. Am I being totoally paranoid??? I've always been the black sheep a bit as I'm the oldest so did the terrible teens first although no where near as bad as my little sis did them!!!(just me and little sis) and I've always had the slight impression that I'm not good enough.
She's also told me that she didn't bond with me when I was born and she was never very maternal - but she has a wonderful relationship with my little sister and they spend loads of time together.
It's probably the hormones but I just feel like she doesn't want to spend any time alone with me - she seems really excited about the baby though and keeps talking about looking after the baby loads. Am I a paranoid freak? Has anyone else experenced this? Should I just suck it up and stop being such a whinger?
Laura xx
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Hormones may be playing apart but don't right it off just cause of that, cause it'll just build up and get u more upset!
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Maybe you should go round and see your mother, if that's possible, or invite her round? She probably doesn't realise that you feel left out. My mum's being the total opposite and cant do enough for me, she won't even let me cook in case I burn myself! So it can go both ways I suppose!
I hope things are better soon and enjoy your 4d scan, still got a few weeks before mine x
In my case I spent a lot of time thinking about my parents and how they had been, my relationships with both of them. I think it's all part of coming to terms with becoming a mum yourself.
I didn't think my Mum was interested in the pregnancy part of it but she's very different now he's here.....
Hopefully the nearer your due date you get the more she'll take an interest.
Tracey
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She cant stand the fact that everyone else is excited about me having a baby as I was told it most likely would never happen.
I'm sure yours will come round.