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Elise's birth story ( Bad experience)
Please be aware that my experience is rare and all labours and births are unique.
On Sunday I was on the antenatal ward due to bleeding and felt very restless. I had alot of discomfort low down and were getting tightenings every 20 mins. I was put on a monitor and the mw phoned the doctor. i waited and waited, but he didn't come so my mum went to find her again and she told her that he had been bleeped. He finally came and examined me. He said that i needed to go to the labour ward to have an urgent scan as he wasn't sure what was presenting. I was very scared as i was only 28+3 weeks. On the labour ward another doc scanned me and said that baby was head down, but that it was'nt engaged. He examined me and told me i was'nt in labour ( despite being 3 cm dilated) I still had some pain low down.
That night I couldn't sleep because of the low pain and asked for some pain killers. The pain settled and once again i tried to sleep. At 6am i found myself in alot of pain and it was coming in waves similar to contractions. I buzzed the mw but no one came and I tried to breath through them. By 8 am it had settled again and eventually a healthcare asst came in with some toast.
My mum and oh came in at about 10 am and a mw came to put me on the monitor. I had not had any obs done since arriving on the ward. The doc had asked for a detailed scan to be done and then i would be moved back to antenatal ward at lunch time. Just after my mum left at 11am I began to get really bad tightenings low down and the pain was quite bad. My oh buzzed for mw and a few minutes later a hc asst came in. She said she would get the mw to see me, but no one came. Again oh buzzed and a hc asst came, Once again she said she would tell mw and once again no one came. this went on for 3 hours and the contractions were so painful. My mum came back at 2 pm and was angry that no one had been to see me. She rang the buzzer and a mw came and said she would put me on the monitor and give me some codeine for the pain. My mum asked why i was getting such bad pain low down and she told her it was only the ligaments and tendons and that i was'nt in labour. The monitor didn't pick up any contractions because they place the pad on the top of the uterus and my contractions were really low down.
The doc came to see me soon after and could see i was in pain. I was still waiting for the scan and blood results and urine test results had to be chased up. I was also still bleeding at this point too. She ordered some pethadine for the pain and once again i was left. Eventually i was taken for scan and two people had to help me onto bed as i was in so much pain. I was never told the results of the scan.
About half hour later i was given pethadine without being first examined to see if i had dilated anymore. The drug made me drowsy and mum asked if I wanted her to stay or go and leave me to rest.
I told her to go home and they would phone if anything happend.
From then on i was left on my own. No one came to see me and i was in agony. The pain got worse and worse. i kept asking for someone to examine but no one would. All the mw were busy and so i carried on trying to manage with no pain killers or anything . I knew something was'nt right, I have had 2 boys and was never in as much pain as this.. Suddenly i wanted to push and i couldnt take anymore so in pure despreation I phoned my mum 10 miles away. i cried down the phone telling her the pain was so bad and i needed to push. She immediately phoned the labour ward and demanded someone go to me straight away. A midwife came in and i told her I needed to be examined as i want to push. She wouldn't believe me and said she would put me on the monitor again. I shouted at her to examine me and a doc appeared. he examined me and told them i needed to go to theatre straight away. the baby was transverse and the membranes were in the vagina.
I was taken straight in and my little girl arrived weighing 2lb 51/2 oz. She was ressusitated and taken to Nicu.
I am pleased to say she is doing really well. The head of the midwifery came to see me and is starting an investigation. i will also receive a formal appology and there will be a formal complaint to the chief exec Worcs royal Hospital.
I am sorry it is so long, and i do not want to alarm people, but today i left hospital without my baby and just want to share my experience.
On Sunday I was on the antenatal ward due to bleeding and felt very restless. I had alot of discomfort low down and were getting tightenings every 20 mins. I was put on a monitor and the mw phoned the doctor. i waited and waited, but he didn't come so my mum went to find her again and she told her that he had been bleeped. He finally came and examined me. He said that i needed to go to the labour ward to have an urgent scan as he wasn't sure what was presenting. I was very scared as i was only 28+3 weeks. On the labour ward another doc scanned me and said that baby was head down, but that it was'nt engaged. He examined me and told me i was'nt in labour ( despite being 3 cm dilated) I still had some pain low down.
That night I couldn't sleep because of the low pain and asked for some pain killers. The pain settled and once again i tried to sleep. At 6am i found myself in alot of pain and it was coming in waves similar to contractions. I buzzed the mw but no one came and I tried to breath through them. By 8 am it had settled again and eventually a healthcare asst came in with some toast.
My mum and oh came in at about 10 am and a mw came to put me on the monitor. I had not had any obs done since arriving on the ward. The doc had asked for a detailed scan to be done and then i would be moved back to antenatal ward at lunch time. Just after my mum left at 11am I began to get really bad tightenings low down and the pain was quite bad. My oh buzzed for mw and a few minutes later a hc asst came in. She said she would get the mw to see me, but no one came. Again oh buzzed and a hc asst came, Once again she said she would tell mw and once again no one came. this went on for 3 hours and the contractions were so painful. My mum came back at 2 pm and was angry that no one had been to see me. She rang the buzzer and a mw came and said she would put me on the monitor and give me some codeine for the pain. My mum asked why i was getting such bad pain low down and she told her it was only the ligaments and tendons and that i was'nt in labour. The monitor didn't pick up any contractions because they place the pad on the top of the uterus and my contractions were really low down.
The doc came to see me soon after and could see i was in pain. I was still waiting for the scan and blood results and urine test results had to be chased up. I was also still bleeding at this point too. She ordered some pethadine for the pain and once again i was left. Eventually i was taken for scan and two people had to help me onto bed as i was in so much pain. I was never told the results of the scan.
About half hour later i was given pethadine without being first examined to see if i had dilated anymore. The drug made me drowsy and mum asked if I wanted her to stay or go and leave me to rest.
I told her to go home and they would phone if anything happend.
From then on i was left on my own. No one came to see me and i was in agony. The pain got worse and worse. i kept asking for someone to examine but no one would. All the mw were busy and so i carried on trying to manage with no pain killers or anything . I knew something was'nt right, I have had 2 boys and was never in as much pain as this.. Suddenly i wanted to push and i couldnt take anymore so in pure despreation I phoned my mum 10 miles away. i cried down the phone telling her the pain was so bad and i needed to push. She immediately phoned the labour ward and demanded someone go to me straight away. A midwife came in and i told her I needed to be examined as i want to push. She wouldn't believe me and said she would put me on the monitor again. I shouted at her to examine me and a doc appeared. he examined me and told them i needed to go to theatre straight away. the baby was transverse and the membranes were in the vagina.
I was taken straight in and my little girl arrived weighing 2lb 51/2 oz. She was ressusitated and taken to Nicu.
I am pleased to say she is doing really well. The head of the midwifery came to see me and is starting an investigation. i will also receive a formal appology and there will be a formal complaint to the chief exec Worcs royal Hospital.
I am sorry it is so long, and i do not want to alarm people, but today i left hospital without my baby and just want to share my experience.
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Congratulations on little Elises birth & I hope you are feeling ok too
Hilary x
i really hope you are both doing well and Elise is home where she belongs soon.
take care hon, and congratulations....x
Big Hugs!
j hope u and ur daughter are back together at soon very soon. take care, my love and thoughts are with u and ur family.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Maria x
Nicospoon. You have been so supportive. i hope i can return it and good luck to you all. I would like to post some photos of my angel but not sure how so will have to talk nicely to lil brother.
sending big hugs to u and baby elise and hope she is home with u soon. xxx
All the best keep strong for Elise she is a fighter and see you about in the march mummy forum.
BIG HUGS
H3LLS x x x
H3LLS have missed you on March mums. glad everything is ok and that you are resting. xx
Going in to hospital see see my angel this morning.
I had my son in Worcester in December, i can't fault the mw who delivered him, she was fantastic, as were most of the mw on post-natal but some of them on delivery aren't very good, i know i was left from 2.30am till 8am without being checked, when i was i was 8cm dilated and he came along at 10.17am. But compared to what happened to you it was nothing.
I really hope that you and Elise are doing ok and that you are able to bring her home with you soon.
Please keep us updated with your progress.
Obi
Really hope she piles on the ounces and is home soon to get lots of cuddles from her new family.
The hospital needs to sort itself out. You deserve more than an apology. Glad your little girl is ok. Hope she'll be able to go home soon.
xxx