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How did it happen for you?
Hi everyone
I'm not pregnant yet - my husband and I are going to start trying for our first baby in June - when we go on holiday hee hee!!!
I suppose its a bit naive of me, but I just thought that you had sex and made a baby... !!! But having read up a little more, there seem to be lots of people who look at their cycles in detail, use ovulation sticks, do it at the 'best' times etc.
So I guess what I'd like to know is, did it just 'happen' for any of you / all of you? Or did you all pay close attention to your cycles / when you were ovulating etc. etc.
My husband and I just want to take it as it comes, we both want a baby but don't want our lives to become 'got to have it here - at this time - on this day' etc. I think we feel this way because we recently got married (last October) and our lives (well mine!) just got totally consumed by the wedding planning, when it was over, I felt quite empty and miserable. I want making a baby to be a really special, amazing and intimate time together and not become trying to make a baby machines!!!
Thanks for any words of wisdom!
Julie xxx
I'm not pregnant yet - my husband and I are going to start trying for our first baby in June - when we go on holiday hee hee!!!
I suppose its a bit naive of me, but I just thought that you had sex and made a baby... !!! But having read up a little more, there seem to be lots of people who look at their cycles in detail, use ovulation sticks, do it at the 'best' times etc.
So I guess what I'd like to know is, did it just 'happen' for any of you / all of you? Or did you all pay close attention to your cycles / when you were ovulating etc. etc.
My husband and I just want to take it as it comes, we both want a baby but don't want our lives to become 'got to have it here - at this time - on this day' etc. I think we feel this way because we recently got married (last October) and our lives (well mine!) just got totally consumed by the wedding planning, when it was over, I felt quite empty and miserable. I want making a baby to be a really special, amazing and intimate time together and not become trying to make a baby machines!!!
Thanks for any words of wisdom!
Julie xxx
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good luck xxx
Thanks for your reply - just what I needed to hear!!!
xxxx
i think your way is best - if you plan to have a baby, and you come on your period, the chances are you'll be sad and get stressed over it, and think things like 'omg, what if i can't get pregnant?'.
if you just don't use anything and take things easy, things will happen if they are meant to be.
good luck joo being pregnant and having a baby really is the best blessing anybody could ask for.
xx
good luck!
i think you should just have fun, it may not happen straight away but im sure if you get as much practise in it will happen.
xx
Enjoy!
Tx
I got married in may and me and hubby were of a similar frame of mind, we wanted a baby but didn't want to 'plan' or think about it too much so just stopped doing anything to stop it and had frun, relaxed and waited to see what happened! I got a positive result at beginning of Dec and our families were very shocked (but happy!) when we told them as thought we would have told them we were 'trying'. Tried to explain we were just going by old fashioned let nature takes its course and everyone seems to think we were abit odd!
I guess it could have happened sooner had i worked out ovulation and layed with pillows under me for 20 mins after (!) - but we didn't want sex to become about just about baby making, and for our lives to feel normal and fun while we waited..as it happened it seems we concieved after a few too many at our local one night - not the best advert i know but fun nethertheless.
Sorry for the rant - i guess its just nice to hear other people feel the same as all i've ever heard is people are 'trying' or using contraception! Good luck..!!xxx
vikki xx
We didnt think about having a baby together as i only got one ovary due to large cyst that weighted 3-4 pounds and its wasnt cancer thank god!!!
Anyway cut long story short we spilt up for a while as we was getting stressed out and stuff and we got back together as we love each other too much and we was at it like a rabbit and not thinking about it!
I had a smear test last year and its came back saying i got some cells and i need to go to hospital to have laser treatment (its didnt hurt) and been told not to have sex before the op but we did anyway!! went for the laser treatment and been told i wont be having period for a while meaning a month or two so i thought oh ok fair enough!!
that was may last year i went back to my doctors last year august to find out why i havent come on yet!! and she said to me thats normal for it to take a while to come but we just do the test anyway so i said oh ok so i went to do our job and it was postive and my oh was poorly that day and i didnt want to tell him over the phone so i rang him and asked him to come down and meet me at doctors...
He arrived and i just passed him the stick that the doctor gave me and he just cried for joy bless him and he cried even more cos its his first daughter as he got 2 boys!!
so if i was u Mrs Joo just enjoy making love to ur husband while on hols lol, and at anytime as its not worth stressing out while trying for a baby as its will stress u both out and its not nice!!, just enjoy making love and enjoy the time u have together cos believe u me once the baby gets here we all wont have time and its sure does change our lives
All the best and u look lovely in the picture as well!!
Cheriste xxx
Cheriste xxx
It has been refreshing to read what you pregnant ladies have written, I have been the TTC forum which is brilliant but I was starting to get a bit worried about everything. See you on the TTC forum Mrs Joo's!!! Star27.x
Worked for us, i discovered i was pg only 6 weeks after coming off the pill. oh was very proud of himself!
Clare
40+6
Definitely!!! I'll be on there permanently until it happens I think, fingers crossed it shouldn't take long!!!
xxx
Love it!!!
My hubby will love that LOL!!!
xxx