Breastfeeding & OH
I am 27 weeks pregnant and my oh seems kind of weird about the idea of me bf, but I really do want to...even though I keep changing my mind and prob will again lol. I haven't got anyone to talk to about whether to breast/bottle feed though. I honestly don't know anyone who breastfed for longer than a week so they're all quite dismissive of the idea and prob would be disgusted by it!....I know that sounds awful doesnt it! And especially my oh. He says he would be fine with it but only for 6 weeks...I know that's not enough for my baby to get the full benefit.
Were any of your oh's/families sceptical about the benefits of bf, and then later came round to the idea? I doubt I'll be able to do it for 6 months as I will be going back to work before then, but I really would love to give it a try. xxx
Were any of your oh's/families sceptical about the benefits of bf, and then later came round to the idea? I doubt I'll be able to do it for 6 months as I will be going back to work before then, but I really would love to give it a try. xxx
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Husband was actually too shattered to worry about himself and helped with expressed milk.
Any length of time is good for a baby than none at all, but don't worry if you can't there will be plenty to stress over through every stage of them growing up. lol
Filo x
we agree to start with 6 weeks and look at how we were getting on and Also I got a breast pump so i could express so he could be involved, and reminded him what they are for and that its best for baby he is fine with it now! xxx
[Modified by: it_must_be_love on February 01, 2008 05:52 PM]
I think what it must be love has suggested is a good idea, but whatever you do - you must not ever think you are a failure. There is a big push by the govt to make women breast feed at the moment (my midwife told me) and so I think you should get plenty of help from your midwife and the health visitor afterwards. Just try to make an informed choice on what you want to do. There are pros and cons to both ways!
I am definately going to try and bf this one, I managed it for 4 weeks with my first who is now 3, but was in sooo much pain as she used me as a dummy!! There are definately benefits for you and baby, and it's much easier at night when they wake up at night and you can put them straight on!
The guilt I felt for stopping was horrible though, I made me cry!
We were watching something on telly the other night and it said about breast feeding making your boobs saggy and OH was shocked and didn't want me to do it!!!! He's fine about it now as they didn't sag 1st time round, I even did page 3 a year ago lol.xxxxx
Re. your partner - I think it is selfish of a man to dictate what his baby feeds. They are your breasts not his and at the end of the day that is what they are made for!! Apologies if this offends but I do think that baby should come first.
I would suggest you take a visit to the breastfeeding forum as im sure there will be plenty of mothers/mothers to be who will also offer advice.
What reasons did your oh give for not wanting you to bf? xxx
When my OH got a bit funny I just said it's best for baby and I want to and he understood and is fine with it. Hopefully your OH will get used to the idea.xxxxx
I did say I wasn't going to BF this one but have now decided that I will, as it's my last one and it would be great to achieve long term feeding. DH was upset when I said I didn't want to feed this one, he's very happy that I've changed my mind, although he'd never make me change my mind.
My oh is still reluctant about me doing it for 6 months, but he was reluctant to have this baby and now he is so excited about it despite denying it! Hehe. xxx
I am sure all will be well with you!
Love Lee
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