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Two Little Ones!?!
Hi ladies,
This mite sound strange but iv bin looking after my poorly 18 month old son for the past three days and this evening its suddenly hit me that i mite not be able to give him this sort of attention when baby number two comes along. Obviously i want him to be as involved as possible but wat if im not physically capable of dividing my time equally? I hate the thought that rhys might feel pushed away wen baby arrives as we have such a close relationship now and i wud hate for that to be ruined. I sat here thinking that me and other half havent really thought it through properly and how having another baby might affect rhys. Are there any mums out there who felt the same with their second baby, or am i just letting my imagination run away? Kerry xxx
This mite sound strange but iv bin looking after my poorly 18 month old son for the past three days and this evening its suddenly hit me that i mite not be able to give him this sort of attention when baby number two comes along. Obviously i want him to be as involved as possible but wat if im not physically capable of dividing my time equally? I hate the thought that rhys might feel pushed away wen baby arrives as we have such a close relationship now and i wud hate for that to be ruined. I sat here thinking that me and other half havent really thought it through properly and how having another baby might affect rhys. Are there any mums out there who felt the same with their second baby, or am i just letting my imagination run away? Kerry xxx
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I have a 15month old and have just given birth to my second who is now a week old.
I feel very guilty that i can't give my attention to him and lotsa people been looking after him.
I feel really guilty but i wouldnt change it. when i get the routine sorted it'll be so much easier!!!
Heather x
im just going to try and spend time with daughter when baby is sleeping(easyer said then done im sure lol)
im sure it will work out for us and we will be able to spread out our time good luck xxx
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tracey x
Dont plan too much in your day and dont try to potty train etc.. expect a few tantrums but dont accept them as the norm or things will go from bad to worse. When I was feeding baby I used to put dvd on and sit with Joseph or get some books out and read with him. The worse bit was when baby sleeps you then have to give the older one some time. Try to get them to sychronize the afternoon nap then you get some shut eye. Also, when toddler went to bed I loved the hour of calm that I got to spend with baby. Thats when I bathed baby, massaged and just cuddled them. I having number 5 and Joseph is nearly 4 and Charlie 2 years 3 mnths. Think this time its not going to be so easy to juggle everyone.
dont beat yourself up nor worry about finding the love. You may not always find the time to do everything your lo wants to do but you will always always find the love.
d x