anyone else too down to feel excited?
Hi all,
sorry if this sounds a bit of a rant but since reaching my 12 week scan (which i had at 11 weeks) and the initial relief at everything being ok, i've just been so down i can't get excited about baby at all. I've been ill with cold and fluey things one after the other which hasn't helped, and my husband has been working so hard during th week and so 'needing' to go to the pub at weekends (like now) i just feel very alone and unhappy. I can't stop crying and feel so guilty about it as this baby was very much wanted, and i know so many people with fertility problems etc i feel like i can't tell anyone i feel anything less than over the moon about this pregnancy.
So sorry ladies onthis saturday night to moan but i'm sat here in tears again and was just wondering if anoyone else felt like this at any stage in this pregnany and if it did get any easier. Feel like my mood is putting extra strain on my marriage and my hubby being out all the time dosn't help..i guess this baby is making me feel more trapped to him than anything else which i find very scary at the moment as i don't want to be a single mum.(oh and i'm 15 weeks now) any advice would be very much appreciated!xxx
sorry if this sounds a bit of a rant but since reaching my 12 week scan (which i had at 11 weeks) and the initial relief at everything being ok, i've just been so down i can't get excited about baby at all. I've been ill with cold and fluey things one after the other which hasn't helped, and my husband has been working so hard during th week and so 'needing' to go to the pub at weekends (like now) i just feel very alone and unhappy. I can't stop crying and feel so guilty about it as this baby was very much wanted, and i know so many people with fertility problems etc i feel like i can't tell anyone i feel anything less than over the moon about this pregnancy.
So sorry ladies onthis saturday night to moan but i'm sat here in tears again and was just wondering if anoyone else felt like this at any stage in this pregnany and if it did get any easier. Feel like my mood is putting extra strain on my marriage and my hubby being out all the time dosn't help..i guess this baby is making me feel more trapped to him than anything else which i find very scary at the moment as i don't want to be a single mum.(oh and i'm 15 weeks now) any advice would be very much appreciated!xxx
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Keep your chin up and remember why we're all doing this, think of the end result.
Corinna x
Look after yourself and try not to feel guilty- you can't help your feelings and it is perfectly normal to go through tough times- having a baby is such a huge change.
*hugs*
Poz
I know how you feel hun trust me i've been there but it is just your hormones playing havoc. Since being pregnant i've been on anti b's 5 times i've had pheumonia 2 chest infections and now a head cold and with all the work your body is doing any illness on top makes you feel even worse and low.
As for the partner thing i'm a single parent and the father of this baby is my ex but i can't stand him and bite his head off if he phones to ask if i need anything. thinking this was weird i asked my mw why i was acting and thinking in such a way and she said it hormones. As like you i think my ex is going to off had enough of my moods soon.
Rest assured you will feel better and i'm sure your partner will unstand your moods! If he goes to the pub then arrange to do someting with your girly friends they are sometimes more of a comfort! Talk to your partner and leave out magazines for him to come across on topics that you feel would help him understand the way you feel! Remember it a change for him too and men handle thigs differently then us!
Hope you start picking up soon!
[Modified by: pinkbutton on February 23, 2008 09:21 PM]
It does feel crap being pregnant sometimes especially when the initial excitement wears off at about 12 weeks, and you know you're in for the long haul! Forgetting about the baby for 5 minutes and doing 'normal' things like going out for dinner & having a (small!) glass of wine, does help.
Once you're pregnant it can feel like you & your partner 'have' to be together rather than 'want' to, if that makes sense, and it can put on extra strain. I am sure you will work it out though, just try not to bottle up your feelings.
I have had looooads of colds and flu since I got pregnant! It sucks...Spring is almost here though so it will ease, unlike poor me being pregnant through the winter, grrrr. Just get lots of rest and remember its all worth it! xxx
Kerry