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Pros and cons of finding out the baby's sex!
I go for my 20 week scan (will be almost 22 weeks tho!) next Monday and after saying we didn't want to know the sex we are now wondering if we shouls! Mainly because we just can't decide on anything for the baby at all (including names, poor thing will be baby for weeks after it is born at this rate). What made you decided to find out/not find out the sex?
Thanks!
Louise.
Thanks!
Louise.
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We had our 20 week scan a couple of weeks ago and we decided not to find out the sex cos we really wanted it to b a surprise til lo is born.
I can see why people do find out cos it makes plannin a bit easier i spose especially if u already have a child (what to keep etc), but to us it made no difference cos stuff we r gettin is all neutral ne way. With names we're jst goin to have a boys name and a girls name for when it is born. It's a personal choice tho
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Pro: It makes plannin alot easier and its a surprise when they tell you, it makes you have a silly smile for days after.
Con: It takes away a little of the surprise at the end.
BUT if you think about it, imagine the surprise your gonna have when you see your little ones face that first time anyway, so why not spread the surprise a little?
obviously you can tell from my post that im all for finding out, but there are lots of people that dont want to, and there reasons are right too. im just too impatient and like you said at this rate my LO gonna be nameless for weeks too.
sarah 20weeks xxx
p.s i got my scan on 4th march to fnd out. xxx
I couldn't wait to find out what we were having!!!! I found out at 20wk scan and then had a 4d scan to make sure!! I am so glad I found out, it's helped me bond with her, sort of feel like I know her aleady! Also I couldn't wait to start buying things, although I said I wanted everything neutral....as soon as I found out she was a girl I went pink mad!!! I have everything ready for her for when she arrives and I feel so organised. I feel like I can just concentrate on relaxing and preparing for the labour!!!
Also it eliminated all the arguing about boys names!!!
It's totally a personal choice tho, there's nothing to say you can't be organised because you don't know the sex!
You can always have a 4d scan later on if you feel like you just have to know!!
Hope it goes well for you!
Lucy
39wks
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The only thing is, they ca't always be 100% on girls, boys are easy to tell, but my niece had a rother large clitorous (sp?) and they thought she was a oy at her 20 week scan, it was only coz they needed another later scan they were able to tell.
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Bear in mind they will not be able to tell you 100%, by the way. We were told 'Maybe a boy' at our 20 week scan, and I then had the big dilemma of wondering whether to call him 'it' or 'he', whether to tell people, whether to buy blue, etc. We decided to accept that it was a boy and get excited instead of assuming they got it wrong, and luckily when I had my 4d scan, they were right! Definitely a boy. xxxx
[Modified by: reester on February 24, 2008 09:53 PM]
We've decided not to find out! At the beginning my DH wanted to know, but obviously one can't know without the other! However, he's now very happy that he agreed with me & we're v excited to find out on the "big day"!
We've been calling our baby Bubble so not had to use "it"!
Sarah xx
When i was in labour the midwife asked what names we had chosen, and it was so lovely when she passed her to me just after she was born and said 'There's your little Ruby'
Good luck with whatever you decide
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So we found out through a private scan that we are having a boy and I feel it was the right thing for us to do. I've heard about it helping with bonding but I don't think it's made much difference (bonding happening already!) but I feel more prepared and it was still a lovely surprise, just a bit earlier! I was worried they may get it wrong but apparently between 22 and 32 weeks it's 97% accurate with a 2d scan. And there was no doubt that we're having a boy!
I like that I can look at the boys things and visualise what we can buy. I think it can give you more choice too rather than being restricted to neutrals (which we will still be buying, along with blue stuff). And I'm struggling with boys names - we had picked out a name but it's all changed now and keeps on changing. We need the time to get it right!
It's a totally personal choice. It's okay to listen to our experiences to help you decide but make up your own mind based on whatever feels right for you. And that will be the right choice.
Good luck! Sonia x
I think it spoils the surprise if you find out but everyone has their own reasons for finding out. I think do what you and your OH want to do.
Good luck
We found out at my 20 week scan that we are having a girl (our first baby) and it was such a lovely surprise when we found out and like someone else said on another post, it puts a smile on your face for the rest of the day.
Plus i know there is a small chance they can get it wrong at the scan so i havent gone too mad on the pink clothes apart from a few items which werent expensive (got lots of bargains at a recent NCT sale!) and everything else weve bought is neutral so i really dont mind if she pops out and she turns out to be a boy!! A healthy happy baby is all i wish for..
Ange
30 weeks xx