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Does anyone else feel guilty about having another baby?
Hiya,
I was just wondering if anyone else feels really guilty about having another baby and that their first child won't get all the attention?
I know it is normal to feel this way but it really gets me down sometimes and I wonder if I'm doing the right thing by having another!
That sounds really bad because I am really excited too and can't wait for baby but I can't help having doubts.
Maybe it's because my little girl starts school in September and baby is due in July, and I feel like I am replacing her? Not too sure but I hope these feelings go soon lol.
Would be great to hear if anyone else has had these feelings and if they went before baby arrived etc.
Thankyou girls,
Faith.xxx
I was just wondering if anyone else feels really guilty about having another baby and that their first child won't get all the attention?
I know it is normal to feel this way but it really gets me down sometimes and I wonder if I'm doing the right thing by having another!
That sounds really bad because I am really excited too and can't wait for baby but I can't help having doubts.
Maybe it's because my little girl starts school in September and baby is due in July, and I feel like I am replacing her? Not too sure but I hope these feelings go soon lol.
Would be great to hear if anyone else has had these feelings and if they went before baby arrived etc.
Thankyou girls,
Faith.xxx
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Kerry
My 4year old ds is also starting school in September and I'm due in June, so am in the same scenario - but feel completely different about it - as much as I adore him (peas in a pod we are!) he needs to be out of the house full time and being entertained elsewhere!
The other thing I always worried about was whether I would love the new baby as much but honestly you do - it is in a different way but you really do have enough love to go round them all!xx
That does make me feel a bit better and I agree Karen, the bigger ones need to get out and do things so even if I wasn't having another baby I would still miss my little girl when she starts school lol. I'm also a stay at home mum bedhead and I know what you mean about giving them your full attention! Hopefully they will get used to having another baby around and enjoy it. It's difficult to imagine dividing myself between two kids, but I'm sure it comes naturally when baby is here (hopefully)lol.xxx
i know it is a good thing for her to have a wee bro or sis, and it will be great for her to not be on her own anymore, so i just think of that when i start worrying about it.
i am a stay at home mum and she has been used to my undivided attention, so it will be hard, but she is at nursery now so that will break up the day and ill just need to try and spend quality time with her when baby is asleep etc. x
so iv bought her some gifts to open in hospital when iv had the baby, and im going to try make her feel involved in bathing ext baby and when baby is sleeping play some games ext with her,
but i know its easyer said then done lol,
i couldnt bear it if my daughter felt left out.
xxx
vikki xx