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Bloody a**ehole men!
In the last 24 hours my hubby has said...
God your massive! (only 24 weeks)
mmm dont think your coping to well with this pregnancy lark (I cook, clean, do shopping, wash his clothes, work full time plus grow a baby and all that has happened is i seem to cry a bit more - i thought i was doing quite well!)
you've become really simple havent you! (because I asked him to repeat something this morning!)
he doesnt mean it nastily but still, His dad is really ill and I have been really trying not to winge about backache or incrediable heartburn and make sure the house is clean, cook his dinner etc- he has been busy at work but still. No bloody support!
Has anyone elses husband/partner been an arsehole?
phew thanks for the rant! (if only i could have a few smirnoff ice to relax!!)
Laura (24+2) xxx
God your massive! (only 24 weeks)
mmm dont think your coping to well with this pregnancy lark (I cook, clean, do shopping, wash his clothes, work full time plus grow a baby and all that has happened is i seem to cry a bit more - i thought i was doing quite well!)
you've become really simple havent you! (because I asked him to repeat something this morning!)
he doesnt mean it nastily but still, His dad is really ill and I have been really trying not to winge about backache or incrediable heartburn and make sure the house is clean, cook his dinner etc- he has been busy at work but still. No bloody support!
Has anyone elses husband/partner been an arsehole?
phew thanks for the rant! (if only i could have a few smirnoff ice to relax!!)
Laura (24+2) xxx
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You dont have to do it for long before they start to relise ACTUALLY how much you do!
I went on strike just before Christmas - he thought nothing of it at first - till he started saying we havent got such and such a gift yet - and Id look at him blankly saying yeah? what did you plan to get them? Them I made a list of everything I was suffering such as consitpated diorea, head aches, heart burn, streach marks, soft hips, hormones, not being able to eat and drink things i liked, vomitting and nasuea (sp), bad hair and skin, bloating, not having enough room in my own body, and then reminded him HE copes when he has a slight case of the sniffels!
Its done the world of good for us both really although it still doesnt quite dawn upon him to make his own work load he is far more receptive doing doing his share when he is given 'jobs' lol
and now if he wants a sirt doing he gets the hanger, puts the board up fills iron, gets clean shirt, i'll iron it... he hangs it up empties the iron puts the board away and then he says thanks you and what a lovely job ive done! Then I remind him that ive stood for a whole two mins (lol) with a back aches and sore hips carrying his child to do him a favour because he is an adult and he is perfect capably of doing it him self!
lol when I choose to have a cry now i get a cuddle a kiss on the forehead and asked if there is anything he can do to help instead of 'oh your crying AGAIN!!?? what for?? what do you mean you dont know why??'
I know it sounds harsh but if i'm giving up work to raise our child and he comes home and the baby has been really hard work and ive not managed to get a handle on all the other stuff i am ment to be doing as well - i want him to understand how much is really involoved even if i dont get paid for it! & that unlike him i dont have a clocking out time! xxx
he has also told me HIS life will not change when the baby comes for example he is planning a lads hol when the baby is a few months old and if i say anything about this he gets the hump and says im being unreasonable!!!
but just the other day i got him back and he didnt like it!! my dad is moving to devon next month so i told my oh i will be going to see him with the baby at least a couple of times while im on maternity leave and as he will be working i told him i will be going on my own, needless to say he didnt like it and got the hump lol
but at least now he knows how it feel eh??
its been hard because he told me the other day that he is finding it hard to want to get close because the bump kinda freaks him out!!! - not the baby obviously but he cant get his head around the bump so sex out of the question. I understand this but felt upset especially as you feel unattractive as it is!!
Anyway we went around a friends house last night (4 couples) it was a christians housewarming so no alcohol, anyway one of the other girls started majorly flirting with my hubby!! I mean touching his leg, leaning into him putting her head on his arm, saying to me 'oh i see why you married him hes lovley to cuddle' everyone could see how uncomfortable it was my poor hubby was so uncomfortable bless him. One of our other friends said 'if i didnt know better id say you were 2 were married!' she just didnt give up. I was sat the other side of her with heartburn and feeling really embaressed until hubby said come on lets go home and i walked out. Well you couldnt stop me cryig what a bitch!!! Hubby was so nice and said he didnt know what to do (he has no experience of women flirting!!!) but could not believe that a 'friend' or in fact her other half would just let her get away with it!
sorry had to get that out of my system. what a bitch!!
xx
As for Bump and it's off putting effects on sex... there are loads of ways he can show you he loves you and finds you attractive without having sex!
1. Tell the other person that you love them
2. Give or get a hug
3. Make sure the other person feels important and respected
4. Kiss when people are looking
5. Kiss when people aren't looking
6. Tell the other person that you care
7. Hold hands
8. Go for a long bike ride
9. Give a special present
10. Be there when they need a friend
11. Spend time together
12. Go to see a film
13. Walk arm in arm in the woods
14. Make a special tape of love songs
15. Talk about your feelings
16. Share dreams with each other
17. Snuggle up together
18. Sit together in the park
19. Take a walk together
20. Go out for a meal
21. Have a picnic
22. Play a game of frisbee
23. Give compliments
24. Relax in a jacuzzi
25. Go swimming
26. Just be close
27. Go shopping for food
28. Cook a meal together
29. Touch each other in a loving way
30. Do homework together
31. Plan and go on a trip together
32. Throw a party together
33. Bake a cake
34. Go to the library
35. Browse in a museum
36. Just be there
37. Find out what's special for the other person - and do it
38. Exercise together
39. Gaze at each other
40. Wash each other's cars (or bikes !)
41. Go fishing
42. Talk to each other
43. Listen to worries
44. Cut each other's toenails
45. Choose a special favourite song
46. Listen to joys
47. Hold one another close
48. Catch their eye
49. Write one another letters
50. Talk on the telephone
51. Trust one another
52. Give or receive a ring
53. Meet each other's family
54. Go hiking together
55. Make sacrifices for each other
56. Send chocolates
57. Respect each other
58. Go for a moonlight walk
59. Hide a love note where the other will find it
60. Give each other sexy looks
61. Write a poem
62. Send flowers
63. Eat dinner by candlelight
64. Go to a concert
65. Watch the sunrise together
66. Remember anniversaries
67. Give each other pet names
68. Go sightseeing
69. Rent a video
70. Do things for each other without being asked
71. Propose marriage
72. Whisper something nice into the other's ear
73. Be best friends
74. Have fun together
75. Go out dancing
76. Play music together
77. Flirt with each other
78. Laugh at something funny together
79. Be faithful
80. Impress each other
81. Make a list of things you like about each other
82. Read a book and discuss it
83. Meet each other's friends
84. Go horse riding
85. Cook each other's favourite food
86. Find out what makes each other happy
87. Make presents for each other
88. Wash each other's hair
89. Watch the sunset
90. Go for a bus trip
91. Have a request played on the radio
92. Send a funny card
93. Share your plans for the future
94. Play footsie
95. Share private jokes
96. Think about each other
97. Find out what makes the other sad
98. Go skating
99. Swap rings
100. Share an ice-cream
101. Have your picture taken together
I work with Young people and dont believe in telling them just Not to have sex but you raise the bar by telling them to delay and that sex should be pleasurable - and these are ways to show affection without 'doing it'.
Also just remember that anyone flirting with us can make us feel attractive and give us a boost and sometimes its lapped up with no alteria intention just as a ego boost! xxx
I had a bit of a sob last night - no idea why really apart from it seemed to stem from the fact that Saturday night tv is utter shite!! Hubby was like'what you crying for - whats wrong now!
Bloody hormones!
ANge
36 wks