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To find out or not to find out?
Hi everyone
I was just wondering how many of you are finding out what your having? Me and my husband are really un-decided! I found out with my first, they said I was having a boy so I was very surprised but delighted when I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl! But now I'm unsure if I want to find out what we're having this time? In a way I want to because I can pick a name and clothes etc and start bonding before lo's even here! But in another way it kind of feels like opening your presents before chirstmas. Has anyone found out and then really regretted it or found that its been really nice to know and start to get to know that little person before he or she makes an apperance?
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I was just wondering how many of you are finding out what your having? Me and my husband are really un-decided! I found out with my first, they said I was having a boy so I was very surprised but delighted when I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl! But now I'm unsure if I want to find out what we're having this time? In a way I want to because I can pick a name and clothes etc and start bonding before lo's even here! But in another way it kind of feels like opening your presents before chirstmas. Has anyone found out and then really regretted it or found that its been really nice to know and start to get to know that little person before he or she makes an apperance?
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Obviously yours prob wasnt so much emotional as ruddy confussed when you thought you were having a boy. Talk about shocker!
It was a bit of a shock but I was so happy because even though I didnt want to admit it when I was told I was having a boy, I desperatly wanted a girl!
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I also understand why so many people want to know - for me its about the surprise at the end!
Lianne
We don't regret finding out at all. The only thing that concerned me was the chance of them getting it wrong (as you experienced carlybarley!) but we were told it's 97% accurate when we had it at 22 weeks. And when we saw the scan we were 100% certain it's a boy!
I agree with you vodkasis that the bonding thing isn't such a huge issue. My sil told me she found out the sex of her kids to help bonding and at that time we had decided not to know. I felt like she was suggesting that I would miss out on a bonding experience by not knowing. I don't think that's true to be honest. Of course you can still bond perfectly well without knowing the sex. I can still barely get my head around the fact there's a baby in there at all!
It's an entirely personal choice and whatever you do is the right thing for you. Listen to others opinions and choose whatever makes sense to you. Do you want the surprise at the birth? Do you want to know so you can prepare? Do you think for you it will help with bonding? Or are you just too impatient to wait?! I was the latter!
Sonia x
I could possibly be persuaded to find out as OH is vetoing every baby name I come up with. At least if we knew the sex I could concentrate on only one list and not 2. But he is adamant that he wants the sex to be a surprise. I think for him he feels quite left out of the whole pregnancy bit so far and it's all happening to me. So I don't mind waiting for it to be a surprise if that's his preference.
Carly - I bet R would be horrified if he thought you were worried about him not loving A as much as the new baby. Wouldn't he ?? From what I know about you and him I don't think you have anything to worry about and I'm sure he will continue to be a doting dad to both children.
Suz xx
We decided to find out with both of ours, we have got a son and a daughter on the way. I know alot of people choose not to find out but for us it just made it more personal. I absolutely loved it when i was in labour and his dad kept saying "im going to have a son on a minute" and it made me laugh when he shouted at top note, that he could see his head!
I didnt mind what the sex was with either pregnancy, i just liked being able to say he or she rather than it. Thats just my choice though, My mother in law is totally against finding out.
We decided not to find out, as I really wanted to keep it a surprise. My DH wanted to know first of all, but is now really really glad we didn't!
Sarah xx
Covering all angles, lol
Its only a decision you can make. With my previous 2 (boys) I wasnt allowed to find out so this time (am now 200 miles away) I decided to. In a way I really am glad I did because I was totally convinced I finally had a little girl and it was a huge suprise to find it was another boy. I have been upset about it as I really did want a girl this time and like you, my OH has taken on my youngest as his own and I was concerned that now he has a boy of his own it would change their relationship! He is close to my other son as well but he is nearly 15 so they're more mates than anything! He promises faithfully that it hasnt/wont as he loves my boy but...
Anyway, another reason which makes me happy to have found out is that my 6 yr old would not entertain the idea is might be a sister! He now takes a lot more interest in mummys bump now he knows he has a fellow crocodile hunter arriving to help cause trouble lol
I have now adjusted and really cant wait for my little boy to get here!
Suz, I know what you mean. Rob adores Abby and I know he always will, I'm just over thinking things and worrying but I know that his feelings towards her wont change.
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It is a tough one - you only get 1 opportunity (unless you book a sexing scan after of course lol). There even if you do decide not to at the 20wk scan you can always have a private one done if you change your mind! And not sure but I think they are A LOT clearer so no mistakes can be made!
Not much help am I babe - sorry!!!!
Love Lee
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However, with babes 1 & 2, prior to sexing scan, I could only come up with girls names and they were both girls. With babes 3 & 4, I had boys names and struggled with girls - they were both boys!! Weird huh?
Anyway, just found out I'm expecting again - only 5 weeks gone but we're chuffed to bits and lo-n-behold, we have a girls name already in place...........only 15 weeks(ish) to wait to see if I'm right again!!