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feeling lonely
Hi all just wondering if anyone else is feeling like i am? I live with my fiancee and 0ur 18 month old son and im 23 weeks pregnant. My oh is absolutley brilliant but i feel so alone as i feel like ive not really got anyone to tlk to about my pregnancy. All my friends seem to have faded into the distance since i became pregnant this time round (as i cant go out) and my mum who is meant to be the one i can turn to just doesnt seem to care what is going on with me and just rings me all the time telling me about all the worries she has got (none of which would be major to anyone but her) i am just sick to death of having to listen to everyones problems.
My mum just rang me and without even asking if everything was ok with me or her grandson, went on for over an hour about the fact that she owns 2 houses, one of which she has just sold for ??75,000 profit and how hard it is on her because she has to sort selling the house out. Im sorry but to me thats a good thing!
Sorry if i sound pathetic but it would just be nice if for once she would at least ask how things were going or how her grandson is (shes only seen him 5 times despite only living 20 mins down the road)
My mum just rang me and without even asking if everything was ok with me or her grandson, went on for over an hour about the fact that she owns 2 houses, one of which she has just sold for ??75,000 profit and how hard it is on her because she has to sort selling the house out. Im sorry but to me thats a good thing!
Sorry if i sound pathetic but it would just be nice if for once she would at least ask how things were going or how her grandson is (shes only seen him 5 times despite only living 20 mins down the road)
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I'm so sorry you're feeling so down. It seems to me that if I were in your position, I would feel exactly the same. Have you tried telling your mum how you feel? Maybe she just doesn't realise the effects of what she's saying and how she is acting. It may be worth having a little word with her to explain.
In terms of your friends, maybe you could invite them round for even just a coffee and a catch up so that you're getting to see other people too. You don't need to even go out.
Other than that, I find his site a great comfort (on both my good days and bad days) so come on here and get things off your chest. If it helps a little, then that can only be a good thing.
Hope you perk up soon, Love Em xxxxxxxxxx
P.S. Nice to meet you - I'm new on here!
I definately find coming on here a comfort. As far as mym mum is concerned everything has got to be about her and it always has been. I've tried telling her how i feel but she just doesnt seem to care, everything in her life has to be one step more dramatic than anyone elses, when realistically shes got a pretty easy life!
My oh tells me not to have anything to do with her and i cant blame him because she constantly has me in tears with the way she speaks to me, but shes my mum and im pretty much used to it now! Anyway sorry to be going on im Beckie by the way im 24 and from wigan near manchester. what about you?
Hope you feel a bit more positive soon, I have days where I could just sit and cry at how bored I am but I don't think the hormones help!!
Kerry xx
She really is the most selfish women i have ever met and im coming to the conclsion that i should just cut all ties, my life would be so less stressful!! god i go on dont i lol
I am 38 and I can honestly say I have never ever felt as lonely as I do right now! I moved 200 miles to live in Bolton 2 years ago and made a couple of friends but all my family and best friends live in Watford. I did start to have some sort of a life, getting out and about, college etc but now SPD has rendered me near enough housebound. I am now hating my pregnancy and cant wait for Tommy to arrive so we can start getting out to mother and baby groups, rejoin college etc and having grown up conversation! It has caused soooo many rows with my OH because when I do see him I feel I have no "adult" conversation to offer because I havent done anything! That is why if ever you need to get on here and chat I am usually here, spend most of my day on the computer or asleep through boredom!
I would say be careful of cutting all ties with your mum babe! Me and my mum had a very rocky relationship and she died 3 1/2 yrs ago and I miss her more than I ever thought I would! Why not back off for a while and only see her when necessary - is she likely to realise there is a problem?
I think somedays its only through places like this site that I have a teeny tiny bit of sanity left in me lol
Love Lee
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i know what you mean about millie are Logan is the same age and does the same thing lol My oh is pretty tidy himself but i always seem to have something to do. i dont know if you'd agree but my house just seems so cluttered with are Logan and the little one on the way. We've got 4 double bedrooms and still every room is full of toys and baby stuff lol
LEE
I know how you feel i still in kind of the same area but ive moved so many times since i was about 14 that keeping in touch with all my friends is hard work.
I really do not want to cut ties with my mum but she can just be so nasty. She cant help but up others down. She even told me the other day that my mother in law is only nice to me because she wants my inheritance when my mum and dad pass away (their divorced) i wouldnt mind but shes never even met his parents and my oh's mum is more of a mum to me anyway and has been from day one. I found out today that she has sold her house (throwing my brother who rents it off her out in the process) and paid her oh mortgage off. This house was bought by my mum and dad 24 years ago and we've always been told it would be our inheritence but now it will all go to her oh daughter. My dad only took his name off it about 4 months ago! its like she just loves to punish us.