controlled crying
hi im having trouble with my sons sleeping. he has recently started waking up in the night again.
H/V advised controlled crying but he cries until he is sick so I dont think I can continue.
he wakes up out of habit as its only a bottle or cuddle that will get him bk to sleep.
Its really hard to do but i would continue if i thought it was gona benifit him but all it seems to be doing is upsetting him and me more.
Also Iv got another baby due in june so would like to get him through the night b4 he arrives.
Should i continue or has any1 got any other ideas?
H/V advised controlled crying but he cries until he is sick so I dont think I can continue.
he wakes up out of habit as its only a bottle or cuddle that will get him bk to sleep.
Its really hard to do but i would continue if i thought it was gona benifit him but all it seems to be doing is upsetting him and me more.
Also Iv got another baby due in june so would like to get him through the night b4 he arrives.
Should i continue or has any1 got any other ideas?
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he is 15 months.
iv tried gradual withdrawal but he screams until he is sick!
what is pick up put down?
I used a website called www.babysleepanswers.co.uk for support when I was sleep training Millie so that might be worth a look. The main reason the pupd is not great for older babies is that they are soooo heavy!
im either gonna have to try again after the baby is born or try again just leaving him to cry!
sob!
good luck hun xx.
thanku for ur help and support ladies, im sooo grateful. i'll be sure to keep ur tips fresh in my mind for any future problems. Elaine xx
[Modified by: charliemummy on April 10, 2008 10:08 PM]
****Do not take him out of the cot. Sit next to the cot and no matter how much he screams, sit there with your arm/hand through the bar and stroke his arm/leg/whatever you can reach. Don't speak at all unless it is a 'shhhh' or something similar. If he is sick, clean him up (in the cot if possible) then continue. Sit there for as long as it takes.***
It's kind of like controlled crying except you don't leave the room.
Here is what happened for us:
1. The first night he stood up and screamed for 10 minutes. After 10 minutes he sat down and fell asleep sitting up. I gently lay him down and crept (so slowly!!!) out of his room with tear stained eyes.
2. the second night he screamed for 2 minutes and then lay down and went to sleep.
3.the third night I settled him down, left the room to fetch something but realised he wasn't screaming, so I sat outside his door for 15 minutes then crept in and he was fast asleep. Probably had been for 15 minutes!
I could not believe how well it worked. My son always refused to go in his cot and would fall asleep with much persuasion on the settee. he hated his cot. He would also have his daytime nap on the settee. After a week, he was also having his lunchtime nap in his cot and I didn't need to use the pyschologists method as he was quite happy to go. he now loves his cot.
The thing that helped me was that while he was screaming, I didn't blame myself, I just sat there thinking how stupid the pschologist was and that it would never work. Hey presto - it did work!!!!! And I love the fact that you don't leave them on their own while they are distressed. I can't believe how quickly it worked, I was prepared for months of torture sitting next to his cot.
Not to say that this will work for you, but anything is worth a try. It certainly changed our lives for the better.
Good luck!
[Modified by: caseymay on April 11, 2008 12:08 PM]