toddlers punching in tummy!??
Hey ya Girls!
Right - I am 25 weeks pregnant and my best friend's child is two and a half he is just starting to throw tantrums and sulk ect.. I am his God mother and love him dearly (sooo please be constuctive)
Two weeks running at seprate times he has punched me in my tummy, we have explained that there is a little baby in there, i'm not sure if it's a case of the green eye'd monster or if he really understands the concept that there is a baby in there at all? but it was definant delibarate both times...
His mum was quick to tell him off and she put him on the naughty step and was very very close to tears saying she was sorry and that it was visious.. I just said well I could have a child the same age whom might be going through the same thing and do that (as did my OH) she made him say sorry (although he was relutant!)
He was very affectionate to me afterwards and he is a sweetie normally and I do really love him!
Thing is it HURT and that's MY baby in there! I had a small bruise from his punch mark... I'm sure I won't be the first this happens to and my baby has been very active so not overly worried... but I am worried about it happening again?
Not sure what to do... I didn't tell him off because his mother was so quick to tell him off for it.. and i really can't fault her for it! and remember he is still only tiny him self!
BUT... ? I don't want to be punched again regardless! it's be twice and it's my baby in there and of course i do feel protective...
wondering what i can do? sure it'll be sensitive because she was so upset that her little boy had done it to begine with... but not sure how to manage him... I can't just not see him because i do love him too...
just a little stressed about having to be on my guard ALL the time around him from now on???
oh what to do? please help? xx
Right - I am 25 weeks pregnant and my best friend's child is two and a half he is just starting to throw tantrums and sulk ect.. I am his God mother and love him dearly (sooo please be constuctive)
Two weeks running at seprate times he has punched me in my tummy, we have explained that there is a little baby in there, i'm not sure if it's a case of the green eye'd monster or if he really understands the concept that there is a baby in there at all? but it was definant delibarate both times...
His mum was quick to tell him off and she put him on the naughty step and was very very close to tears saying she was sorry and that it was visious.. I just said well I could have a child the same age whom might be going through the same thing and do that (as did my OH) she made him say sorry (although he was relutant!)
He was very affectionate to me afterwards and he is a sweetie normally and I do really love him!
Thing is it HURT and that's MY baby in there! I had a small bruise from his punch mark... I'm sure I won't be the first this happens to and my baby has been very active so not overly worried... but I am worried about it happening again?
Not sure what to do... I didn't tell him off because his mother was so quick to tell him off for it.. and i really can't fault her for it! and remember he is still only tiny him self!
BUT... ? I don't want to be punched again regardless! it's be twice and it's my baby in there and of course i do feel protective...
wondering what i can do? sure it'll be sensitive because she was so upset that her little boy had done it to begine with... but not sure how to manage him... I can't just not see him because i do love him too...
just a little stressed about having to be on my guard ALL the time around him from now on???
oh what to do? please help? xx
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Toddlers can be quite rough, they're just learning. Its just you're more aware of it when pregnant. My oh is fantastic at playing with the kids but that's not to say he hasn't had an accidental kick/elbow where it hurts before! xxx
Because he has done it twice now, you'll probably realise if hes going to do it again so just stand up so he can't get to you. If his mum is disciplining him for it then he should realise soon that it's out of order. So its good that she's doing that. You could always try showing him a picture of himself as a baby and say that's whats in my tummy so you have to be a good boy and not hurt him! xx
yeah cause I was in shock about it - I hadn't expected it even the second time i dont think maybe I hadn't reacted enough...
your right about not picking him up tho! xx
I know it's easier coz we're always together but like Kerry says, try to involve your God son, maybe suggest that he and his mum come to a midwife appointment so he can hear baby?
I am wondering which is best to do not show him my bump and not draw attention to it... or keep showing and trying to involve him?
I always give him plenty of kisses and cuddles and lots of attention, he doesn't go to nursery yet, and no toddlers groups and has no small children around him so he might find it hard to 'share' me... He is lovely and of course I love him loads & I know it's normal and plenty of mothers who had toddlers will go through this... I just haven't had that experiance yet and know her is a good place to ask! xx
Kerry xx