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so upset - updated
im so upset im sitting here crying my eyes out
i have a blind cat and on wednesday she will be going to a re-homing place i always knew this day would come but i have put it off and off and now im 37 weeks on wednesday i couldnt put it off anymore.
i rescued her myself from a family that mistreated her (which is y she is blind) and she is such a happy fat cat now she has a perfect life with me and kirk and i feel like im letting her down, she hasnt done anything wrong but she will be suffering.
she is going to the best re-homing place in london/essex she will have her own central heated pen with loads of room, i know she is going to a great place but im just gonna miss her sooooooo much
someone tell me im doing the right thing, i cant see a way round it she is blind and i wouldnt be able to trust her with a baby which will scare her and cause her to lash out (which she still does to me and kirk sometimes)
update
well coco went on wednesday but im really struggling with it, i just miss her silly lil ways so much when i get up in the morning i still call her name and then remember shes not here and end up crying my eyes out
i dont feel like anyone understands what im going through all kirk says is dont upset ur self babe but thats impossible
on the morning she went i got up and was instantly crying and throwing up i just didnt want her to go, we took her to the place and when we left i was crying/throwing up and punching kirk in the chest begging him to go and get her back
she is now on the website to be re-homed
http://www.chestnutcatsanctuary.co.uk/Content/adopt-a-single-cat?page=2
and she looks so beautiful and she is actually in her bed!!!! she never got in her bed when she was here!!!
im sorry if im bringing anyone down but i just really needed to write this down as no-one around me lets me talk about is as it upsets me so bloody much
[Modified by: victoriarogers7 on 26 April 2008 09:13:23 ]
i have a blind cat and on wednesday she will be going to a re-homing place i always knew this day would come but i have put it off and off and now im 37 weeks on wednesday i couldnt put it off anymore.
i rescued her myself from a family that mistreated her (which is y she is blind) and she is such a happy fat cat now she has a perfect life with me and kirk and i feel like im letting her down, she hasnt done anything wrong but she will be suffering.
she is going to the best re-homing place in london/essex she will have her own central heated pen with loads of room, i know she is going to a great place but im just gonna miss her sooooooo much
someone tell me im doing the right thing, i cant see a way round it she is blind and i wouldnt be able to trust her with a baby which will scare her and cause her to lash out (which she still does to me and kirk sometimes)
update
well coco went on wednesday but im really struggling with it, i just miss her silly lil ways so much when i get up in the morning i still call her name and then remember shes not here and end up crying my eyes out
i dont feel like anyone understands what im going through all kirk says is dont upset ur self babe but thats impossible
on the morning she went i got up and was instantly crying and throwing up i just didnt want her to go, we took her to the place and when we left i was crying/throwing up and punching kirk in the chest begging him to go and get her back
she is now on the website to be re-homed
http://www.chestnutcatsanctuary.co.uk/Content/adopt-a-single-cat?page=2
and she looks so beautiful and she is actually in her bed!!!! she never got in her bed when she was here!!!
im sorry if im bringing anyone down but i just really needed to write this down as no-one around me lets me talk about is as it upsets me so bloody much
[Modified by: victoriarogers7 on 26 April 2008 09:13:23 ]
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i know its hard now but when ur baby is here all u will be doing is worryin about them both. making sure u know where the cat is at all times ect.
after i had my first i moved bk in with my mum 4 a while and all i done was worry if my cat that i grew up with since i was about 10 - who is as soft as anything - was near my baby as - like Gill - i was worried she was going to lay on him, U will have the extra worry of ur cat lashing out which isnt fair on either of them.
i think ur making the right decision babe xx
I understand how awful you feel but I have to say (and I hope I don't get lynched here) that I am very much of the opinion that if you have a pet then you should take every measure to try and make everything work and only get rid of the animal as an absolute last resort. Sorry - I am a big animal lover and it really upsets me when I hear these stories but please don't think i'm judging you - its only an opinion
Abby x
Katie and bambino.x x x
Your cat will find a nice loving home and you can be relieved that you acted before there was any trouble.
Im really sorry to hear your making such a sad decision. Can I ask why you want to let her go?
I have a blind three legged cat (yep no joke) and I totally adore her. I know she will find it hard to adjust with a baby as she is a stubborn old misery at times but im confident she will and will be just as loving with baby as she is with us.
is there anyway you can see yo maybe give her a chance and see if she is good with your LO?
It sounds mad but cats do have a sixth sense about babies. My Mum and Dad had a cat when my sister and i were young that was blind and viscious but never ever hurt either my sister or I although regulary took it out on my mum and dad. I think they know to be gentle and I think she might suprise you.
Good luck with your decision it must be awful
Vx
[Modified by: VICKIT on April 21, 2008 12:36 PM]
What a horrible time for you.
When I was expecting my son I had two cats, one was really possessive over me and would attack my oh if he got too close so I had to re-home both of them as they were brothers and really close.
I now have another two cats. One is totally chilled and layed back ther other has cataracts in both eyes and only sees hazy images. She does swipe at small children because they move too quick when they go to touch her or walk past. I have trained all my nieces and nepwhews to walk slowly past her and to let her smell them before trying to stroke her. I did this from when they first started to move around under their own steam. She won't voluntarily go near them and will generally stay up out of their way. She has swiped at ds on occaision if she is feeling particularly miserable.
We have decided that we will wait and see what happens. Unfortunately she has been with us since she was 5 weeks old and hates being away from us so I would have to have her put down for her own sanity and other peoples safety (we adopted a cat many years ago that was unhappy at being seperated from it's much loved previous family and we got badly attacked, I had 24 stitches and my step son had 13 on his knee)
I completely sympathise with you. It's not an easy choice to make but if you are really concerned then it's better for your own peace of mind and safety of your lo.
I'm sure they will find her a lovely home and maybe one day when lo is a bit older you could get a kitten or rehome another cat.
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You have done your best to find a fab re-homing facility, and Im sure they will find her a brilliant home. Anyone who takes on a blind cat is obviously doing it out of love for the animal, and will give it a brilliant home.
You are definately doing the right thing for your baby's safety, and you have done your best and the right thing for your cat too. xx
i honestly think that unless u have a BLIND cat u dont understand what its like!!! she does lash out at strange people and noises all the time!!!
as i said im not doing this out of choice i do not want to get rid of coco because i love her with all my heart but obviously the baby comes first doesnt it???
this is the hardest thing i have EVER had to do and being judged does not help!!!!
I just wanted to give my opinion, your right i dont know your cat or your life but I just wanted to say that it can be possible to have a cat and a baby, but i understand if its not possible to have your cat and your baby. Im sure you have explored every option but ive changed my mind on things after reading posts on here and I just wanted to give you my experience and a possible alternative. Im sorry if I have caused any offence and i didnt want to make you feel worse. xxDBxx
unfortunatly this is my last option with coco im finding it very hard and upsetting and i have really left it to the last minute to do. i just hope and pray she finds a nice family who will love her as much as i do xxx