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SCARED & VERY WORRIED NEWBIE !
Hi everyone....Im very glad I found this site. Im 42 and approx 7 weeks pregnant. Very , very worried, very stressed - pregnancy was a total shock as we'd given up on ever having a child after 5 years of trying . That aside had a scan last week as I had pain in my side ( hospital thought it was ectopic, but later diagnosed as grumbling appendix ! ) - scan seemed to be approx 6/7 weeks , but im worried as ive only had very intermittent and mild sickness ( or rather only nausea) , mildly sore boobs for about 3 weeks , terrible constipation & headaches on and off, but the last few days apart from chronic tiredness I don't feel anything - no nausea , no soreness, no headaches...im so worried im going to miscarry ( partly because of my age ) are there pther women like this ...am I normal ??... ....also under awful stress in other ways which I won't go into, and on top of that I have Multiple Sclerosis , so am in constant pain as i've had to stop taking all my medication.....am I trying to hard to look for symptoms ? - or as they were so mild in the first place is this normal. ?I got pregnant about 12 years ago, and had virtually no symptoms then - but I had a termination, and spent the whole time preceeding it in denial .... My Mum and sister don't live anywhere near me , and I don't really have any female friends here where I live as we haven't been here long, so I feel very isolated and scared and worried... I Keep bursting into tears all the time and I can;t seem to focus on anything properly - I feel really depressed and worried . I have to go for another scan on Friday, but I think i've just convinced myself I won't carry this baby to term..... I just feel so sad.....but any helpful advice would be warmly received ! ( and if you've read to the end of this whingy post, thank you for hanging in there ! )
Moneypenny
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I'm 39, got pregnant after a long time trying, then spent the first 12wks constantly stressing that I was going to lose baby (had mc approx 6yrs ago). I also have a pre-existing medical condition, which could potentially cause problems for me and/or baby, so that was another thing to worry about. 12wk scan showed up a possible problem (though not related to my medical condition), so that was more worrying. BUT I hung on in there, am now 34wks, things look okay with baby, & we're getting ready for her arrival.
I know it's hard, but try to think positive. And keep talking to your partner about your concerns if you can.
I really hope everything works out okay for you.
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For what it's worth I didn't start feeling sick until about 6 weeks, then it disappeared completely at 9 weeks. I was really worried my hormone levels were going wrong and would affect the baby as I have a very underactive thyroid so managed to get an early scan which really put my mind at rest. Unfortunately the sickness came back the following week and lasted with a vengeance for the rest of the pregnancy but it was all worth it in the end! Good Luck and hope you're feeling a bit more positive soon.
Please try not to worry. They will obviously keep a close check on you because of your medical condition, so hopefully this will help you to relax and enjoy your pg. I know its easier said than done to relax (cant seem to take my own advice!), but please try as stress will not help the situation.
Congratulations by the way! xx
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