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Husband cheating
Just looking for someone elses point of view. Back in October 2007 my husband and i seperated we have a 16 month old daughter together. This was an extremley hard time and i had to be put on anti-depressants. In January of this year we decided to give it another go. About a month after we got back together he broke down one night and said he had something to tell me and that he had done something stupid. I knew in the back of my head that he had slept with someone else so i was half expecting this. But the next bit im finding very hard to deal with. He told me that the girl he slept with was pregnant. She is only 19 and lives with her parents apparently they are thrilled ! She supposedly told my husband that there was only a slim chance she could get pregnant as she has had complications,
To me this does not excuse sleeping with a stranger without contraception. That goes for my husband aswell.
I really dont know what to do we have stayed together at the moment but im finding it difficult to trust him.
To me this does not excuse sleeping with a stranger without contraception. That goes for my husband aswell.
I really dont know what to do we have stayed together at the moment but im finding it difficult to trust him.
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Good luck with whatever you decide.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
my ex had a secret relationship for 13 months while my son was little and i took him back after about a month i realised he just thought he had got off with it and didn't need to try so i finished it and it was the hardest and most empowering thing i have ever done!! we are now good friends 5 years down the line i never made any problems with him seeing our son and never would hes his dad!! but i just felt i couldn't live with the what if and the maybes .As a foot note i will addd he has had 2 serious relationships since we split and has done the exact same to both women so do you really think a leapard can change... if after a while your feelings change and you are still attracted to each other then take it slow dating and things but don't feel emotionally pressured into making any decisions you call all the shots he is the one in the wrong good luck babe
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Whether you stay with him or not only you can decide- my husband lied to me for months and stole off me to buy drugs and we split for 6 months. When I took him back I knew he had changed- we have been back together over a year and he is perfect. A fantastic dad and a better husband than I could ever have dreamed of. BUT that doesn't happen often and some ppl find themselves going round in circle for years. Go with your gut instinct if you feel deep down that this relationship can work then put the past behind you and move on. If you can't put the past behind you then it will never work.
To help you do this I would advise you to sit together and ask him the questions you feel you need answers too. Try not to react (easier said than done) coz he is more likely to be open if you keep calm.
I would also say that I would insist on a dna test being done- if this girl has done this with one man then there could be others.
We all make mistakes in life and while I do think that cheating is the ultimate betrayal at least he had the decency to tell you- you didn't have to hear it from someone else. I hope whatever you decide to do that you keep strong and make yourself and your daughter happy