abortion programme last night!
dont know if its pregnancy hormones but it made me so sad i was in tears.. i know theres prob people on here who may have had an abortion in the past, so ill watch what i say. personally i could never do it, especially since after having children.
probably shouldnt have watched the programme as it showed you what they do, but i was intriged.
this is my second baby, am now married but with my first i was on my own (well in a bad relationship that felt like i was on my own) and the dad wanted me to have an abortion, i knew i couldnt do that, and my heart kept telling me to keep the baby, which i obviously did. that programme brought back a lot of bad memories for me, thinking i may have done that just cause he wanted me to.
i just thought it was so sad the couple who had children already were having an abortion, and the girl who commented on how she was "middle class" really annoyed me, she was so stuck up and came across as really heartless!
just wondered if anyone saw it too, and if pregnancy has changed your overall opinion of abortion ? (cause it has defintely changed mine!)
probably shouldnt have watched the programme as it showed you what they do, but i was intriged.
this is my second baby, am now married but with my first i was on my own (well in a bad relationship that felt like i was on my own) and the dad wanted me to have an abortion, i knew i couldnt do that, and my heart kept telling me to keep the baby, which i obviously did. that programme brought back a lot of bad memories for me, thinking i may have done that just cause he wanted me to.
i just thought it was so sad the couple who had children already were having an abortion, and the girl who commented on how she was "middle class" really annoyed me, she was so stuck up and came across as really heartless!
just wondered if anyone saw it too, and if pregnancy has changed your overall opinion of abortion ? (cause it has defintely changed mine!)
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I didn't watch that programme but it sounds really interesting and i wish i had watched it now. I to get really intrigued by things like that, then get upset and angry wen actually watching them.
I personally have never been in the position where i have had to consider an abortion and i suppose each circumstance is different, i just dnt agree with these women who use abortion as a form of contraception. The way i see it is if u really dnt want a baby u will do everything u can to make sure u dnt get pregnant. However i do realise that it can't be helped in some circumstances and accidents do happen. In all i dnt have any strong feelings either way, its the choice of the individual but some people who end up having 3 and 4 abortions clearly have no heart or feelings. Kerry xxx
35.4 wks
I could never go through with a termination. I would always think back and wonder if it was the right thing to do. It would scar me for life. I know people who have psychological problems because of having one always suffering constant nightmares of dead babies etc.
If you don't want to have kids just be super super careful not to get pregnant. Like take the pill and use condoms and if condom splits take moring after pill.
I've heard that if you've had more than one abortion where the baby needs to be scraped/sucked out (sorry tmi) then it mucks up your insides and when you do decide the times right to have a baby it's really really hard to conceive. Don't know if it's true - just what I heard!
On the whole I still think it's ok in some circumstances but definitely shouldn't be used as an alternative form of contraception!!
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I dont agree that the limit should be reduced but terminations as late as 24 weeks should only take place for medial reason eg if the fetus is severly disabled, as that is something you may only find out at 20 week scan.
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I think termination should be available but if someone is using it as contraception (i.e. more than once) then they should be made to attend classes on how to effectively use contraception.
I know that is a harsh statement, but I cannot agree with getting rid of babies at this gestation when the majority of tests for serious medical conditions are carried out earlier.
Off my soap box now!
Karenxx
I didnt watch it either. I too had a termination 4 years ago, i was still suffering with severe pnd after my daughters birth and i was on the pill, but the medication i was on stopped it from working.
It is the biggest regret of my life, and when i became pregnant this time i felt sure i would loose the baby as some kind of punishment.
I think abortion is acceptable if done for health reasons, but also find it unbelievable that some women use it as a form of contraseption.
kerry xxx
I felt very sorry for the woman that was widowed at the age of 24 left with 2 children she was such an emotional wreck that I could understand her reasons for having a termination. The girl who was separated from her boyfriend and already had 2 children who had the termination whilst the cameras were rolling really wasn't as strong as she initially made herself out to be. For alot of reasons women have terminations and feel years of guilt and sadness over what they have done and most of them shouldn't be judged to harshly.
I do however find it completely unacceptable to use abortion as a form of contraception.
Gem xx
Being pregnant has not changed my view on abortion, more compounded it. I do know that if i had fallen pregnant while i was younger i would have seriosly considered it. not, i wouldn't. i have decided not tohave 16 week AFP blood tests as I dont believe that I would be able to terminate, or even take tests as far as amnio. I know some people may think that is selfish or even foolish.
Having worked in a fertility clinic for 4 years and also having several friends with 'fertility issues'(one of whom had embro transfer today, fingers crossed), I truly believe that every pregnancy may be your only chance to have a child and I have seen many tragic things during my work there and in obstetrics.
i also have several friends who have made the decision to terminate. for one it was the bestcoice for her at the tme, and although she still thinks about it now, she knows she made the right choice. another had one 15 years ago and it ha completely destroyed her. she is now without children and sees that as her punishment. she too was 'forced into it by parents. I understand that parents only want the best for their own but to do that and to say all the hurtful things they still say now - 15 years on - is heartbreaking.
I would never judge anybody for abortion no matter te circumstances, but to use it as contaceptive for social reasons i personally believe is barbaric.
Cheers Co x