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controlled crying?
tonight i am trying the controlled crying route as some of you may know my lo wont sleep! my question is how long did it take your lo's to go to sleep from putting them down? my lo has been in bed just over an hour now and is still screaming the house down!!! do you think she will eventually settle or am i just wasting my time?
caz x x
caz x x
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Well after listening to my daughter scream for over a hour and half i caved in. she was sobbing her little heart out bless her.:roll:
Hope you are having more luck than i am KThom
Caz x x
i'm on my own now so i haven't got the strength to do it, its too hard. my lo screams so much if i put her down awake, i've only ever managed to leave her half hour before i give in.
since her dad left i'm sure she knows that i'll bring her into my bed when she wakes through the night if i can't settle her. i've made a rod for my own back...but i really want to get out of it...i'm just not strong enough. arghhh
hope it goes well for you both though and your lo's start to sleep for you.
my lo is 13 months by the way.
xxx
Caz x x
Caz x x
because she's older i think its alot harder to do the cc. i really wish i done it before she could stand herself up in the cot coz now she just stands up and headbutts the side of the cot and screams hysterically!!!
the hv said she won't be hurting herself and it won't do her any harm to leave her...but its easier said than done.
they offered t come and help me do it for her daytime sleep but i think its the night time i need it and i doubt they will want to stay the night and deal with that through the night for god knows how long.
i really worry about waht the neighbours will think as well, it sounds like i'm torturing her!!! it breaks my heart listening to it so always give in...which probably makes it worse.
i need supernanny jo frost here for the week i think!!! lol
she only wakes so much in the night coz she stirs and realises i'm not cuddling her anymore...its so frustrating.
xxx
This bloomin storm isn't helping - we've got thunder. We've got lightening. We've got heavy rain! OH is on a night shift and lo is in same room so I wanted to leave him in there to cry on his own.
At one point he was quiet for ages and I thought he was asleep so I popped my head in the door. He wasn't asleep at all! He was looking drowsy then as soon as he saw me he started screaming again! That was about half an hour ago. I keep going in every 20 mins and he calms down again. He's not actually screaming now just sort of moaning.
GO TO SLEEP!!! I'm really tired now and I dont want to go to bed until he's asleep.
well after an hour of this I'm not giving up now!!
Caz x x
Soooo nice to get to bed at 3 then he woke up again at 4!!! Argh.....!
I just ignored him and he fell asleep within a few minutes. Fed him at 5:30 then he slept til 7. Hopefully he'll sleep a bit sooner tonight. 2 hours !! CC is not for the faint-hearted! Its hard work!
How did you do last night??
[Modified by: anatoriac on May 28, 2008 03:10 PM]
not too good, after an hour 1/2 -2 hours i caved in, ended up picking her up and feeding her, dont know if she was just upset or really hungry but she fed for a while. (she had very little food yesterday and not much milk so i presume she was actually hungry). its so hard to judge when breastfeeding cos i dont know how much she is taking. she then fell asleep on her dad. :roll: Guna try again tonight and hoping it goes alot better as she has eaten more today. Fingers crossed anyways! lol
i bet you are shattered?! you would think that they would drop off after an hour or so of crying, shame we cant take the batteries out!
Caz x x
Im so excited!!!
Well good luck for tonight. Hope all goes well!
TBH I'm not really that tired. Give it a few nights... Its not putting him to bed thats the problem for me, he usually falls asleep quickly at bedtime.
It's when he wakes in the night for the usual feed at about 1-2. Thats when he won't go back to sleep again, hopefully soon he'll get the message.
Don't beat yourself up about picking her up I almost did so many times last night! Its really hard you have to fight this natural instinct. Just try again tonight
Know what you mean about taking batteries out! Maybe get a muffler hee hee
Decided i was guna take a nice long bath with my new spare time lol only as soon as i started running it at 9.40pm, madam decided to wake up again, so ive stuck with it and 1/2 hour later she was asleep again, other than me having to lay her back the right way as she was at the top of cot crawling and shuffling about. (think she was trying to escape the cot lol :lol
it does seem to be getting easier though, even though its only been a couple of hours so far, hope shes not too bad the rest of the night!!!
Caz x x
I hate to brag, but Max slept 7pm-6:30am last night! Sorry but I'm really chuffed! I actually woke up before him this morning! After the previous night he was probably nackered but I hope this is for good now!
I'm quite lucky Max isn't mobile yet so can't move around his cot must make it even more difficult (
hi westbrom1, yeah control crying is when you basically leave them to cry keep checking on them regular to start with but just settle them without making eye contact or talking too much and dont pick them up. then increase the time gradually when checking on them. its hard to start with but it does seem to be working quite well
Caz x x