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Any mums to be with dads to be away a lot?
I'm 24weeks and my OH is in the Army hes based in Wiltshire while i'm in London.
do any of you find it REALLY difficult as i'm really struggling without him here i've never felt so along as i do right now,
All i want to know is how do you keep DTB in the loop as my OH is missing out on EVERYTHING and it really upsetting me
do any of you find it REALLY difficult as i'm really struggling without him here i've never felt so along as i do right now,
All i want to know is how do you keep DTB in the loop as my OH is missing out on EVERYTHING and it really upsetting me
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Sometimes, I run out of strength to cope too. The crying while doing housework sounds familiar (too much time to think!)
I am really enjoying ben and jerry's cookie dough ice cream on the weekends (which are the times that really drag the most) and also having lickle Larry, my cat, helps too.
Is nice to know there are others in the same boat. Sometimes you feel really alone. Esp on these summer evenings when all the neighbours are out having barbies!!
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6 days!!!
i dh used to be in the army ( came out last year thankfully)
and was away for the whole 9 months in afghan, i had to tell him over the phone that i was preg, and we hadnt been together long. it was the most hardest thing i have ever ever done i was so worried about him all the time and felt that i couldnt focus on the preg. We were really lucky though as he managed to tie in the 2 scans with his r/r and managed to get home a week before the birth. though it was hard for him cause he felt that he missed the whole preg but luckly he bonded really well with baby.
we since having evie he felt that he couldnt keep missing out so left army and now has job on oil vessel at sea and goes away for 5 weeks at a time but is home for the next 5 weeks and so on etc.
im due tomorrow and husband is with me for the next 2 months so thats great , but worry how i will cope with 2 lo's under 2 when he is away and ill have to work.
Its hard when he is gone for 5weeks as evie does forget him, and wont go near him for a while when he first gets home but this usally lasts about 1/2 hr and then she wont leave him alone.
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My husband is away in Djibouti, also had to tell him the news on the phone and id always imagined he be with me when i got pregnant and be able to give me a big hug! But he was so excited over the phone i just forgot about it a bit.
But now, im 13 weeks, im over emotional all the time and sometimes when i speak to him i take it out on him and dont mean to. Its just so hard, going through the pregnancy on my own, all these changes happening to my body and he isnt here to share it or be there for me. I know he is over the phone but its not the same as a hug! He will be here for my 20 week scan which is great because my 12 week scan my mum came and i feel he missed out alot.
Anyway i know at the end of it all we will be a happy family and he will be home for good before the baby is born. I think we have a strong enough relationship to get through these months of living apart.
Angel Delight - dont worry I was the same and still am on and off its the hormones and I just missed being able to share everything happening, it will be alright though
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if it makes you feel any better, i did that when jon was in afghan and he only had 10min phone card a week! i was all emotional and had ago at him a few times , cant belive i did that!
im not so emotional this time so maybe im having a boy
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well like i said its the hardest thing ever ! cause you go out of your mind worrying about them, but i kept thinking it could of been so much worse and he could of missed the birth, i think actually we were really lucky, glad he come back in one piece.
feel sorry for you at least mine is out now.
i admire these army wives and g/f who are preg and have children.
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Oh no, I've got all this to come in about a months time.
I'm 9+2 with 3rd baby, other 2 are nearly 3 and 7 months, my hubby has just got a new job in Bristol and we live in West Yorks. He'll be down there all week and be back home Friday evening until either Sunday evening or Monday morning before going back down again to start the week all over again.
I know it's not the end of the world as unlike a lot of you I will get to see him for a couple of days each week but I'm dreading it with 2 children to look after as well as another one on the way.
I didn't like to tell him before he went for the interview that I didn't want him to go as I thought that would be really selfish as I know it will help him further his career a lot and he's doing it to provide for his family and because he knows I don't want to go back to work.
I told him about 5 mins after he got the call to offer him the job!! I couldn't help but cry that he'd got it, and not in a good way either!! We talked about it and agreed that he could give it a go and we'd see how it works out.
I'm really lucky that I get on well with both my family and my in laws and they are no further than 10 mins drive away, they will all help out if I need them (well once I've told them I'm PG that is!)
The thing that bothers me is not that he'll miss out so much on this pregnancy, we've been through 2 together already and have got those experiences to remember, it's more for selfish reasons that I'll be home with 2 quite young children and getting bigger everyday with the next one, I feel like it will be a massive struggle and one that I might not cope with.
Am I being weird about it or does anyone think this is normal?
Kelly x