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Nightmare Day
I cud kill someone today! Namely my boyfriend's nan & great aunt!
We went for a buffet and everything I did with LO was wrong! They were interfering about everything and whatever i did wasnt right. They insisted he was hungry when he was just overtired and to make em happy I had to sterilise a bottle with boiling water as I didnt have a spare one as surprise surprise he wasn't hungry!! 2 mins after I'd made the bloody bottle he was asleep!
And then as we were going my bfs great aunt had the CHEEK to say "Well you've learned something today havent you" in a patronising voice. WHAT I had learnt exactly I didnt know as I just pretended I hadnt heard!!!
Now he is really overtired from being passed around & i am knackered. I have passed him to mil for a bit until I do his bath. (She wants him - am not just handing him over lol).
Stupid old people!!!!!!!!!
We went for a buffet and everything I did with LO was wrong! They were interfering about everything and whatever i did wasnt right. They insisted he was hungry when he was just overtired and to make em happy I had to sterilise a bottle with boiling water as I didnt have a spare one as surprise surprise he wasn't hungry!! 2 mins after I'd made the bloody bottle he was asleep!
And then as we were going my bfs great aunt had the CHEEK to say "Well you've learned something today havent you" in a patronising voice. WHAT I had learnt exactly I didnt know as I just pretended I hadnt heard!!!
Now he is really overtired from being passed around & i am knackered. I have passed him to mil for a bit until I do his bath. (She wants him - am not just handing him over lol).
Stupid old people!!!!!!!!!
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I think I'd have been tempted to say 'yes I've learned not to listen to people trying to tell me what to do cause I know whats best for my baby!' but then I'm a gobby cow at times I'm dreading my bil's wedding cause I'm sure hubbys family will want to try and pass lo around like a parcel and try and tell me what to do and I'll have to try and behave! Interfearing people should be banned from family get togethers!
when i had him, it carried on, with her "advice" - just like your probs, Tigerlily!
just remember, he is YOUR baby, and you know him better than anyone!
jojomummy - yeah sure thats really selfish wanting to do teh best for your child!! If thats one of the better ones I dread what the ohter comments were!
Also at the moment during the week I live 20 miles away from her and my husband they have the baby police around. They are always phoning me to say someone saw me carrying the baby in a baby sling and I shouldn't do that. Or someone saw me walking with the baby and she only had a dress and cardigan on etc etc. I told them this is my 3rd child and I have't killed or injured the other 2 so maybe I know what i am doing.
Oh well, only 2 weeks and I will be moving into the hotel and will have 3 months of my MIL driving me crazy. Something to look forward to! Not.
selfish for bf baby! and if its like my inlaw hse it's prob the only time you get to hold them too. i'm dreading when lo can be spoon fed there'll be no good reason why only i can do it! i get told i'm selfish for wanting a cuddle with lo when we stay at inlaws as i get him all the time at home! i don't think it works like that personally!
good luck everyone, with any luck there will come a time when they listen, or, if not, our los will be giving them an earful themselves heehee
I still feel down about it today. Every time he even whinged yesterday my ohs nan just took him off me and said something like "Oh whats your mummy doing". It was all sooooo patronising...I know i shouldnt let it bother me but I feel like I should be doing better now.
LOL at brandy in the bottle! They really did used to do it, my grandma suggested it once but not seriously. Apparently gripe water used to be mainly alcohol as well...prob made babies burp cos they were drunk!
Greek baby, your mil sounds awful! Keep up the breast feeding just to annoy her! It must be really hard working for so long when you've just had a baby and it's so hot.
Sounds like there's a lot of horrible inlaws out there!
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Linzi it is a great acheivement to keep expressing for 3 months well done!! My lo never latched on either despite trying a few times but I gave formula straightaway.
is there any way you could explain to your oh how they are making you feel? or next time a comment like that is made tell her you appreciate the help (ahem) but would really like to learn how to look after your own baby as you cant rely on her all the time! (if you are a keep the peace kind of girl), otherwise something like 'well mummy is not doing anything because you're not giving her a chance' might get some sort of response.
good luck, i really do know how hard it is and how horrible it makes you feel, but you make sure you take time to enjoy your baby and ignore any put downs because if you actually listened to everything they suggested you'd probably find it's all out of date and on the dont dare do list now! take care of yourself, chin up girlie, you're doing good
My mil said before xmas- ooh Lily's sitting really well now isn't she? I said yeah, she's been doing it for a while now to which I got the response, well we wouldn't know, we never see her! My hubby never batted an eyelid as I was made out to be depriving them of their only grandchild!
GRR!
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My MIL can be really awful but at other times really nice. She has problems because when my OH was 1 years old and his sister 40 days old her OH family made her leave the kids in Greece and go to Germany to work to send money back to help the rest of the family. She didn't see the kids for 2 years. She really regrets it now but at the time she was young and too frightened to say no. Women did what they were told in those days. She says my baby reminds her of her little girl that she missed out on. So I think she wants to make up for the loss she suffered. So I try to understand and give her time with the baby. But she should understand things from my side and not try to repeat things by making me work all hours instead of enjoy time with my baby.
saying that tho', she should in that case realise what your baby means to you and lay off you about working at the hotel!
hope it all goes well with the move....