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Friend or Foe?
Okay Ladies I need your advise / opinion on something. I was friends with a girl about 7 years ago, we where best friends and used to do everything together, one day she met this bloke and totally changed, she became really selfish and basically used to use me all the time, I eventually I got fed up and told her to get lost and we lost touch. Recently she found me on facebook and we started chatting and eventually became friends again, she had been married to this bloke and they are now divorced, at first she seemed like she had gone back to her olf self she just wants to see me all the time and whenever I say i'm doing something I know she checks up on me on facebook. Anyway, last week I was at her house and I told her about me and oh ttc and she looked at me like I was an idiot and said "what? why? are you crazy?" she then went on to talk about how much she hated kids and said not to bloody ask her to babysit etc etc, I couldn't believe it, surely if she was in fact a true friend she would be happy for me? She even said "I know i'm supposed to say congratulations and be happy for you but you know how much I don't like kids!"
I haven't seen or spoken to her since and she is supposed to be coming round to my house tomorrow night and I really don't think I want to see her, what do you all think?
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I haven't seen or spoken to her since and she is supposed to be coming round to my house tomorrow night and I really don't think I want to see her, what do you all think?
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I mean the fact that she changed so much in the first place as soon as a guy came along could mean she will do exactly the same thing again when another bloke comes along. Maybe tell her how you feel and see what she says.
Or just have her a friend somebody you see now and then but don;t get as close as you did before that way why she acts like this it wont upset or bother you so much as you are not that closer friend of her's.
K xx
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its seems like maybe her life is very empty at the moment if she has time and feels the need to check up on you all the time!
i would ask myself a few questions:
what do you have left in common?
do you look forward to hearing from her?
do you feel you can trust her 100%
it sounds like both your lives are going in totally different directions and that may be whats coming between you more than her not being a baby person!! i mean after all just cause we all want babies and can't think of anything else it doesn't really make her a bad person to not want those things, maybe shes being bitter cause she's scared your moving on without her?
freindship is a two way path, so there has got to be come and go!! if shes becoming a drain then maybe its time to distance yourself, you don't need to fall out with her just maybe not see her as often!!
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theres prob not a problem under sun we haven't faced between us!! lol!!!
glad i could help!!
[Modified by: danipink on June 05, 2008 03:34 PM]
wether a person likes children or not for her to act in this way when your telling her something personal and important to you isn't acceptable, ithink the girls are right break away from her and maybe just see her occasionaly xxxx