Husbands??who needs em!
Just had the most appalling conversation/ argument with my husband. He wants to stop concentrating on TRYING for a baby and to just wait and see what happens. I asked him to bd with me last night and he didnt want to. When i just had it out with him as to the reason he said that although he wants another baby sometimes he cant be bothered to bd and that i am taking it too seriously. He then said that he doesnt care if it takes another six months or longer. I know this doesnt mean that we stop ttc BUT i am so broody and want it to happen - like the majority of you on here. I feel like its a kick in teeth because he hasnt wanted to know about ovulation time, AF's or planning to BD. If we dont plan it a little it could take months to fall pregnant. I feel gutted.!
Nobody actually needs to reply to this - its just that i needed to rant a little. Thanks everyone for being on here! x
Nobody actually needs to reply to this - its just that i needed to rant a little. Thanks everyone for being on here! x
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you rant as much as you like - it is what we are all here for!
sorry to hear about your conversation with your hubby. MEN!! hmmm. i don't think they realise what ttc/babies etc mean to us. that when we want to get pg, we want to get pg now and that is all we can think about.
I had a mc 3 weeks ago and hubby wants to us to be a bit more "relaxed" about ttc.... ie he says i shouldn't bother with ov sticks etc, we should just make love etc when we want. fair enough but i just won't talk about it to him. i will POAS in secret!! and try to seduce him at the optimum times without talking about ttc (if that is possible!).
maybe it is all too much pressure on the men!! they can;t handle the pressure like we can!
big hugs hun, you hang in there. xxx
hope you are feeling ok x
I suppose i will have to let it happen spontaneously but personally i think my husband is just too lazy to put the effort in! Thanks ladies!
Mrs_e - sorry to hear about mc, if anything you will want it to happen more and more and to take a step back like your husband is suggesting must be heart wrenching because then it may seem like you are losing hope!! Goodluck x
iwantanotherpls - goodluck with your sly seduction techniques. let me know any good tips to make it seem spontaneous! x
its not that i dont want to talk to dh about it,its just that ive only just understood it myself and i get quite embarrassed about things like af's ect when talking to dh,silly-yes,but its just me.
if it gets to months without any sign of getting bfp then we will have to talk about what we are going to do,but like someone told me earlier,just enjoy it!