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Have separated from OH!!
in Baby
Hi,
Sorry i know this probably isn't the right page to post this on but i spend most of the time on here!
I posted the other day that OH and I aren't getting on and was wondering whether we should have a break, well we had a big row today and i said i'd had enough and that i want to split and he said ok!
So thats it now he is working tonight so he is going to move out after work in the morning!!!
Been together 7 years and married for 1 year! seems like a waste and its horrible for my lo but i think its best for him in the long run as we will all be happier, i feel relieved to be honest! just haven't got the energy to argue every day!!
He has always had a short fuse but lately its got worse and i've been scared on a couple of occaisions and i've just had enough, i've tried talking to him so many times and he just carries on!!
I don't want my son in the middle of it! not sure where i stand now as i've just quit my job to look after lo full time! might have to sell up, i'll be gutted if i have to leave my house!
Not sure how i feel about things at the minute but i know its definate this time, he usually talks me round and i fall for it but he hasn't eve bothered this time!
Looks like i'm a single mum now!
Sorry i know this probably isn't the right page to post this on but i spend most of the time on here!
I posted the other day that OH and I aren't getting on and was wondering whether we should have a break, well we had a big row today and i said i'd had enough and that i want to split and he said ok!
So thats it now he is working tonight so he is going to move out after work in the morning!!!
Been together 7 years and married for 1 year! seems like a waste and its horrible for my lo but i think its best for him in the long run as we will all be happier, i feel relieved to be honest! just haven't got the energy to argue every day!!
He has always had a short fuse but lately its got worse and i've been scared on a couple of occaisions and i've just had enough, i've tried talking to him so many times and he just carries on!!
I don't want my son in the middle of it! not sure where i stand now as i've just quit my job to look after lo full time! might have to sell up, i'll be gutted if i have to leave my house!
Not sure how i feel about things at the minute but i know its definate this time, he usually talks me round and i fall for it but he hasn't eve bothered this time!
Looks like i'm a single mum now!
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Hope things work out OK - I'm sure all the ladies on here will offer their support.
Rachael (
I'm sure it will be hard at first but once we get used to it things will be better apart!
Thanks ladies!
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I'm sure it will be hard at first but once we get used to it things will be better apart!
Thanks ladies!
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He has never hit me or been close to it but i have noticed he is more agressive to me and i don't want it to go that far!
Thanks for the support!
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Good luck hun, hope things work out for you. Keep your chin up.
i split from my ex 3 months ago, and things are so much better now. i do still have hard days where i sit in the evenings thinking about all the good times...but then i remind myself how much happier me and my lo are.
you'll get used to it quick and will be fine.
phone tax credits (0845 300 3900) and income support (0800 055 6688), they can fill your forms out on the phone then you just have to go to the local job centre to finalise the income support. if your not working you'll get full income support which will also entitle you to full council tax benefit, not sure where you would stand on housing benefit if you own your house, the job centre will be able to tell you everything your entitled to anyway.
we're all here to help you as well hunny.
feel free to email me if you want to talk or need any more advice...leona@wheals.orangehome.co.uk
keep your chin up...it will get better and easier.
xxx
am thinking of you
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When I finally put him out 'for good' I was numb but deep down hurting too- I still loved him but I hated the person he had become. We were apart with absolutely no contact (apart from a few phone calls in the first few weeks) for 6 months and when we met up again to discuss our childrens future we ended up getting back together!!!
The six month break was exactly what he needed- he had totally changed it was like meeting a new person all over again- he still had the same nice bits as before just loads more of them and we have had 15 months of absolute bliss- our marriage is perfect.
All I am trying to say is keep strong- even if you are tempted to go back wait it out as long as you can. Get straight in touch with Citizens advice to find out how you stand where benefits are concerned and talk to ex about contact and maintenance.
One thing I do know about benefits is that if you don't work the government will pay your mortgage BUT only after 40 weeks or something crazy like that- so if you could find some way of getting it paid for those weeks then it would be better for all concerned.
Talk to your oh - he may be willing to come to some sort of agreement that he will pay the mortgage as his maintenance. Personally I relied on my parents who were great. If you want to calculate how much maintenance you will be entitled to go to csa if you put in his wages it will calculate for you (you don't have to put in personal details) . If you come to your own agreement it will be better for you tho as csa do take a cut of the money paid to them- but be sure to take chqs or standing order so that if things get messy then you can prove how much you have been given
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I hope everything goes ok for you. Sounds like you made the right decision, it isn't fair on lo to be in the middle of warring parents.