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I'm so excited I just can't wait any longer!!
My OH and I have spoken loads about having a baby and we've decided to start trying in September as we are getting married in August and also moving so we both want to be settled first.
But now that we've talked about it and my OH is so for it, I just want to try now!! I'm so excited about it all and I think what if I don't get pregnant straight away and we have to wait a year??? If we start now then at least we'll have a head start!
Has anyone else felt this way? I just think...what if I stop taking the pill after this month! I know if I told him, he would think I'm nuts but I know that if I just told him I was pregnant, he would absolutely love it!
I don't want to deceive him but I'm so excited about the whole experience of being pregnant and having our baby!
But now that we've talked about it and my OH is so for it, I just want to try now!! I'm so excited about it all and I think what if I don't get pregnant straight away and we have to wait a year??? If we start now then at least we'll have a head start!
Has anyone else felt this way? I just think...what if I stop taking the pill after this month! I know if I told him, he would think I'm nuts but I know that if I just told him I was pregnant, he would absolutely love it!
I don't want to deceive him but I'm so excited about the whole experience of being pregnant and having our baby!
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Anyway, you want to be able to have a few drinks on your wedding day and a nice relaxing honeymoon too.
My mum said as soon as she came off the pill she got pregnant straight away, I hope it runs in the family!
My OH finds anything to do with change very hard, he gets quite anxious so he would freak out if I started talking about coming off the pill in the next week but on the other hand, he deals with things very well when they are actually staring him in the face. I don't know what to do....
How long have you all been trying for? Also, can't it become more stressful working out ovulation dates etc...isn't best just to see what happens? Do any of you keep diaries about it all?
Do any of you have difficult in-laws? My OH parents are really controlling and judgemental - it has a massive effect on him which is probably the main reason why he wants us to wait until we move away. Personally I feel there is nothing more exciting than becoming parents and grandparents - it's not supposed to be a really scary time, is it?!
I agree that it might be good to use alternative contraception for a while, but don't trick your fiancee.
I was so tempted to stop taking the pill, and it has taken ages for it to get out of my system; however the reasons I didn't stop were: change in figure after getting wedding dress fitted, esp my breasts (TMI); wanting to drink at the wedding; worrying I'd have spots (this was a groundless fear); drinking on honeymoon; and the fact that one of my pals had her period on her wedding day and felt crap. And it lasted part of her honeymoon too.... not much fun....
Hope that helps!
I've decided I won't trick my OH, he's a very good man and it would be very wrong of me. I don't mean it in a bad way, I just really want to get pregnant and experience it all.
I'm going to concentrate on my wedding and honeymoon over the next few weeks and then start trying in September. I know it's the most logical thing to do - it's just so hard not to get carried away with it all!!
I might have made a really dumb decision if it weren't for all your advice so a real big thank you and lots of babydust for you all!!
It is really tempting tho - I can't wait to start my little family ... its all I've ever wanted !
I hope you come to a decision, and didn't want to put a downer on things for you. Let us know! Good luck with the wedding. xx
have already started taking my folic acid supplement xxxx