He changed his mind:(
Hi all. I have been off the pill now for 4 weeks as my husband told me to so that we could try for number 2. He wasn't keen on the idea but i told him that i didn't want Emma now 20 months to be an only child and also we always planned on having 2 children close together. I don't have regular periods with the pill so i know it will take a while for my body to get normal again-if it ever will! We are taking it easy as i got a little obsessive when trying for Emma and then when i was pregnant i was an emotional night mare as i had a missed miscarriage a few years ago so my husband is worried i'll get like that again but i'm pretty sure i won't be as now have a toddler to take my mind off things like that. The problem is this morning he told me that he doesn't want to have another child now even though i have been off the pill for almost a month and if i'm honest it broke my heart. I am very lucky to have my daughter and i'm sorry to all those trying for number 1 who thimk i'm just being selfish but i really don't want Emma to be an only child, both myself and my husband come from big families and i just don't understand him. He would rather buy a bigger tv than try for another baby. I love being a mum and as much i can't imagine loving another child as much as Emma i know i will and i know it will complete our family. The other problem is that once Emma is at school i know he won't try then because he'll want me to wrk more hours as i will be able to then. I haven't spoken to him about it as i'm scared about what he will say, i just don't know what to do, the thought of going back on the pill makes me sick and i know if i do number 2 will never happen. I'm sorry to moan but i am so upset, i was looking forward to having a brother or sister for Emma. Has anyone ahd a similar problem? xxx
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And Socks - we've all been thinking baout you xxx
maybe give it a little more time, you don`t have to go back on your pill, you could just use condoms in the meantime as it is prob best if your cycles return to normal first anyway.
I hope i haven`t waffled too much and have maybe helped a bit, chin up!
xx
All I can suggest is trying to talk to him and putting your acse forward as reasonably as possible - sometimes men need to have a plan fully formed and spelled out to them before they will commit to it.
If he doesn't feel the time is right then you need to get some idea of when he will change his mind, if at all.
Me and my h2b talked about trying for no.2 last april I went to have coil removed but no luck, because of this oh changed his mind. I waited until sep 07 for him to agree again so I had coil removed but we didnt start trying properly until Nov. A few months ago he changed his mind again, he said its not the right time! Well when Is it ever the right time to have a baby? Anyway I was distraught, It was taking us long enough to concieve without him making it take longer. I stayed quiet about it for a while. Then mentioned it a month later and he was happy to carry on (well we never actually stopped having unprotected sex but we werent 'trying').
We are STILL trying now. What im trying to say is just let the dust settle for a bit and he may change his mind. Let him know that the worst thing to do is go back on the pill as it will mess up your body again for when you do want to try again.
Maybe you could suggest that you take no protection but dont actively TRY for a baby if that makes sense? And you could suggest the 'see what happens' attitude as men usually do. Good Luck hun xXxX
anyway let the dust settle and see what he says in a months time. our LO is 3 and hopefully wont be an only child much longer but im glad i only had her whilst she was 2 as i think it would have driven me made having 2 very younge children at the same time.
thanks again xxx