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OH isnt ready for a baby :-(
hi. i really want a baby but when i spoke to my fella about it he said that he isnt ready he said he is scared. i forgot to take my pill a few times this month but did a test this morning and got a BFG.i think my period has come now, as i forgot a couple of pills. iv also decided to stop takin the pill and iv told my OH, he is ok about it but is going to use condoms in future...not what i wanted him to say. any ideas how to convince him its a great thing to be a parent? xx
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Then you can enjoy the babymaking together.
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Caz x x
I knew it was the right time for us to start trying. I took it as a sign when I went to take my pill, and had not realised I had run out! Duh! lol I had never done that before!! xx
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It must be hard for you but if you get pregnant when he has already said not yet then he will feel betrayed.
Hope you don't mind me askijg but how old is your partner. My Husband is now 28 and we've been togther for yrs and and we both only just feel ready now...i'm 31.
I read some where that having a baby is like throwing a hand grenade into a relationship thought that was quite cool way of putting!! it so if he's not ready yet, its unlikely by coming pregnant that it will change his mind. I'd leave it for a while because it might push him further away.
When the times right for both of you it will be perfect xx
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I'm sure he will come round to the idea, my husband was the same before we tried for Emma and it was his mum and dad who convinced him we would be able to afford it in the end. Men!!
We don't have a morgage either and have debt problems-we had these before Emma. Maybe your OH seems to think he needs to have a lot of money to have children but you don't. I do think men worry about money when it comes to having children because they will be the main earner in a lot of situations and i suppose that is a lot of pressure. Maybe he needs to realise that having children does cost money but if everyone waited until they had a morgage and no debt etc then no one would have kids as a lot of people find it hard financially these days. i know that doesn't help you much but just want you to know your not alone
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Right i must go to bed now, i hope he changes his mind very soon, thinking of you
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