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can you ever be ready for a baby
hi there.
me and my husband had planned to start trying for a baby next january. i am getting the implant out in september this year so i can get my periods back to normal before trying. i am starting to have doubts though about trying soon but i really want a baby so much. we had an experience on a virual baby that acts like i real baby. i loved every moment of it. currently i work 20 hours a week but when i have a baby i will put it down to 16 hours a week. over 2 days so i can spend more time with my baby and hubby. my husband still doesnt have a job he has been looking for a job for 5 years now and keeps on getting rejected i am worried if we wait i will run out of time for getting pregnant. i am 24 and i will be 25 in december my hubby is 22. there is also the fact our rent is really expiense. it
but we get benefits cause we are both disabled so i think we will be ok with the money situition.
please help and give me advice
me and my husband had planned to start trying for a baby next january. i am getting the implant out in september this year so i can get my periods back to normal before trying. i am starting to have doubts though about trying soon but i really want a baby so much. we had an experience on a virual baby that acts like i real baby. i loved every moment of it. currently i work 20 hours a week but when i have a baby i will put it down to 16 hours a week. over 2 days so i can spend more time with my baby and hubby. my husband still doesnt have a job he has been looking for a job for 5 years now and keeps on getting rejected i am worried if we wait i will run out of time for getting pregnant. i am 24 and i will be 25 in december my hubby is 22. there is also the fact our rent is really expiense. it
but we get benefits cause we are both disabled so i think we will be ok with the money situition.
please help and give me advice
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i couldn't imagine having one of those reality baby things. i don't think i could take it serious as i would just see it as a doll. lol
your still young so you've to plenty of time, but if you feel your ready now then go for it.
Me and my oh are in our 20's but he has been in a stable job for 7 years and me for 2 years and own our home.
Don't want to put a downer on you but you def have to think about those aspects, as you prob want the best for your child.
[Modified by: emily100 on July 12, 2008 06:27 PM]
We're young too (24 & 25), and we rent. We don't have a car either! But we're both in stable jobs, we've been married nearly 2 years and love each other very very much. We know it's going to be very tight moneywise, but we've done the maths and know it's do-able....just!!
If you know its what you want...then go for it!!!
We realised a long time ago that we were never going to get to the stage where we'd suddenly go 'We can afford a baby!', so always said that once we'd got to a stage where it was just no longer mathematically impossible...we'd go for it!
And that's what we did about 2 weeks ago! We're now half way through our first cycle.
So good luck with whatever you decide to do. When it comes down to to the crunch, I think you know whether it's the right thing to do.
Flowerpot x
BIG DEAL.
I work part time and my husband is a stay at home dad- I did used to worry about what other ppl thought about us but you know what- my kids are happy, healthy and cared for and me and my husband are happier than ever.
We both worked full time for ages and had good jobs and owned our own house (a three bed semi with a garden if you please lol) BUT we weren't happy and as a result neither were our children.
He left work, I re-arranged my hours simply because I discovered that I could cut my 40 hour week to 20 hours and only be ??40 a month worse off.
We then decided we wanted another child but knew we couldn't afford to (we needed a bigger car and the mortgage was expensive) so we sold up had a few holidays, treated the kids, bought a new car and paid off all our debts. We don't have much left of our money but guess what I DON'T CARE.
Our children are so easily pleased and i WOULDN'T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY. mONEY AND MATERIAL THINGS TURN MOST CHILDREN INTO SPOILT BRATS.
Finaaly to answer your question no nothing prepares you for motherhood- even when I had my 2nd and 3rd kids it was still a shock!! But well and truly worth it- if it is what you both want go fir it