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they wanted to commit me!
Had my initial appointment with mother and baby unit as been feeling very low after birth of son. Tough time due to emergency crash c section, knocked out, told baby might not live, sparated for 4 days etc. Things loads better 6 months down the line but still have moments when he cries when i feel nothing at all except anger at the noise.
Sutting long story short the doctor took my notes etc to decide what course of action should be. I said no to medication but she asked me whether i wated to come and stay on the unit!!! (She pointed out ther were mothers who couldn't even hold their children there!) Then kept pushing me to have medication. I honestly am functiong well just need to talk through the trauma of the birth and separation anxieties.
Not sure why i am posting. Gues was surprised at how fast they are to suggest pills or a stay on a physchiatric unit!!!!
Sutting long story short the doctor took my notes etc to decide what course of action should be. I said no to medication but she asked me whether i wated to come and stay on the unit!!! (She pointed out ther were mothers who couldn't even hold their children there!) Then kept pushing me to have medication. I honestly am functiong well just need to talk through the trauma of the birth and separation anxieties.
Not sure why i am posting. Gues was surprised at how fast they are to suggest pills or a stay on a physchiatric unit!!!!
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You have to do what is right for you and you're little boy. If YOU think the pills will help then take them, but only if they are right for you. Have you spoken to the doctors where you had you're baby? Thats what they suggested to me, personally it wouldn't help me because it would just bring it all back, I can't even look at the hospital without panicking, let alone see the staff!!!
Hope you are ok.
Lucy
Yeah I don't mind, I don't really get to talk to anyone. Give me your email address and I'll email you. Are you on facebook? I am Lucy Neal on facebook.
Lucy
xlisax
whats your real name, a few people have added me on facebook and I'm not sure which one is you!!!!
Lu
Thanks to all the replies. I do hope those who need help are offered it or at least push for it. Will post again when have a moment!
My lo is 11 weeks now and just starting to feel low, recognising signs sooner than before so hope to get on top of it.
Good luck and do give counselling a try. (apparently alcohol is not the answer! lol)
Since having my second daughter 4 months ago (an elective c sect) i realise just how much i missed out on with my first. I feel totally different this time around (like how you feel it should be) and that just re-enforces the guilt i feel towards my first daughter.
Somewhere along the line things all came together & the bond i feel towards the both of them is exactly the same. I think the second section helped as it was such a positive experience that it kind of blotted out the first one out if that makes any sense!
I think women should automatically be offered counselling in that situation. It's extremely traumatic & people seem to be of the opinion that 'things could have been alot worse' & of course i totally agree with that statement, i dread to think what could've been & am truely grateful for the people on shift that night but it doesn't stop us 'grieving' in a sense for the birth we missed & the struggles we encounter as a result.
I'm sorry that turned into a bit of an essay. I hope you start to feel a lot better very soon.
Claire xxx
take care xx
Dad died 5 yrs ago from cancer...held his hand as he went. lost a baby at 17 weeks...a little boy...I still feel the guilt that we let him be cremated and we were not able to be there.
I fell pregnant a month after we lost little Joe and now have a gorgeous little boy...Liam who is 7 months.
xxx
Thanks for all your advice.Things are getting better, slowly.