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Just married iv just read ur reply to victoriarogers post and want to ask, do u think those that arent fortunate enough to live in a house should stick to having 1 child?
I found your response quite offensive and personal as i have been there and my boys were quite alright. I know people that unfortunately cant afford to live in a house and have 4 children in a 1 bed flat as thats all the council would give them.
U even realised u sounded snobby when u wrote it so u must have known it would cause offence, maybe u shouldnt have posted at all.
I found your response quite offensive and personal as i have been there and my boys were quite alright. I know people that unfortunately cant afford to live in a house and have 4 children in a 1 bed flat as thats all the council would give them.
U even realised u sounded snobby when u wrote it so u must have known it would cause offence, maybe u shouldnt have posted at all.
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I don't think any offence was meant by the post. Sometimes it's hard to get across your feelings/opinions in these posts as sometimes you can go on a bit if you try - I know I go on quite a lot to get my full feelings through!!
We are all from different backgrounds etc. but we all have one thing in common - we are all mums and we need each other's help & advice, hence this website.
I hate to think that anyone could be offended by a post. We should stick together!
It is fine - lots of company - but sometimes I wish I'd waited till I was 30 and had a nice house! But then I'd probably get bored.
I think what justmarried meant is that she personally would find it difficult...not that other people were scrubbers if they did...We're all different after all! x
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I don't want to go on, and i am typing ine handed as usual as breast feeding so perhaps i don't always re read posts as i should but... I meant in my case I would find it hard having 2 little ones in a small household. Some people can manage in limited space, flimited funds, support etc, but i'm afraid i can't. I am not that strong. I am suffering with post natal depression after nearly losing my baby at birth, not seeing him born etc. not going for sympathy vote but all i was thinking was that I couldn't do it. You'll note I wished the lady well and I was happy for her.
I think that's all I need to say. I'm sorry.
To everyone else - at the end of the day we are all going to read things that we may or may not agree with but the whole point of this forum is to offer advice and support to each other. After all, we are all in the same boat.
So lets just do that )
Hales xx
As u can see iv never writen any other angry post or took part in 1 so ur comment did cause offence whether it was meant or not.
i dont want to argue with anybody thats not why i posted as im sure justmarried feels the same and there is no hard feelings on my behalf. but i will spk out on what i believe in and im sure justmarried felt the same wen she responded to the other post.
but as u can see im not the only 1 who felt offended so my advice is in the future is to read over ur posts before u put them on. Sorry this caused a lil madness and ur right this is a support site so sorry if i got out of my pram a lil but it got my back up.
justmarried. Sorry to hear ur going through PND, it cant be nice for you. Pls accept my apology and hope we can post together, in a nice way, soon.
Now lets just forget this whole thing and get on with being mummys ;\)
Elaine and boys xx
[Modified by: brandollarz on July 30, 2008 08:15 AM]
Let's move on, as lots of people have said. I have been dying to respond to some posts but feared to do so because of what happened. Not that I will ever post anything that could be read in any other way than positive from now on. It's hard isn't it as whatever we post I am sure someone, somewhere will be offended? For example debates on dummies, having lots of children, in laws, working vs stay at home and so on. I hope that people continue to have opinions, albeit ones that don't offend others!
I could go on!! But will leave it by saying thankyou for your apology. I did feel very singled out. But ... I harbour no bad feelings and am just glad that we can all get on again.