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Useless midwife
Went to see my midwife today... what a waste of time.
She took my blood pressure, didnt even tell me the reasult, wether it was high, low, or ok.. then just sat me on bed, looked for heartbeat (at my request) literally let me listen for about 4 seconds, then turned it off... I barely even got to hear a thing, I am just taking her word that it was ok!!
Then that was it, she sent me home, come back in ten weeks! By which time I'll be 26 weeks.
Is this normal? I even noticed in my green notes she ticked that she had explained things she had never, and where it said babys movements she had ticked none yet even though she hadn't asked me about that?
She didnt even weigh me?
I just feel so let down as someone who is relitively dealing with the pregnancy alone, I am only 22, my partner is rather useless most of the time and just not supportive! (he isnt anti the baby at all, he just doesnt take into consideration what I am going through and hasnt put a single penny towards one thing for baby tho he earns a LOT more than I do), My family are miles away, I was really relying on my midwife to be helpful, someone I could talk to , and turn to for advice in my pregnancy..
Instead I am stuck with some woman who is obviously in the wrong career and doesn't seem to give a shit about her patients!!!
:x
Went to see my midwife today... what a waste of time.
She took my blood pressure, didnt even tell me the reasult, wether it was high, low, or ok.. then just sat me on bed, looked for heartbeat (at my request) literally let me listen for about 4 seconds, then turned it off... I barely even got to hear a thing, I am just taking her word that it was ok!!
Then that was it, she sent me home, come back in ten weeks! By which time I'll be 26 weeks.
Is this normal? I even noticed in my green notes she ticked that she had explained things she had never, and where it said babys movements she had ticked none yet even though she hadn't asked me about that?
She didnt even weigh me?
I just feel so let down as someone who is relitively dealing with the pregnancy alone, I am only 22, my partner is rather useless most of the time and just not supportive! (he isnt anti the baby at all, he just doesnt take into consideration what I am going through and hasnt put a single penny towards one thing for baby tho he earns a LOT more than I do), My family are miles away, I was really relying on my midwife to be helpful, someone I could talk to , and turn to for advice in my pregnancy..
Instead I am stuck with some woman who is obviously in the wrong career and doesn't seem to give a shit about her patients!!!
:x
Went to see my midwife today... what a waste of time.
She took my blood pressure, didnt even tell me the reasult, wether it was high, low, or ok.. then just sat me on bed, looked for heartbeat (at my request) literally let me listen for about 4 seconds, then turned it off... I barely even got to hear a thing, I am just taking her word that it was ok!!
Then that was it, she sent me home, come back in ten weeks! By which time I'll be 26 weeks.
Is this normal? I even noticed in my green notes she ticked that she had explained things she had never, and where it said babys movements she had ticked none yet even though she hadn't asked me about that?
She didnt even weigh me?
I just feel so let down as someone who is relitively dealing with the pregnancy alone, I am only 22, my partner is rather useless most of the time and just not supportive! (he isnt anti the baby at all, he just doesnt take into consideration what I am going through and hasnt put a single penny towards one thing for baby tho he earns a LOT more than I do), My family are miles away, I was really relying on my midwife to be helpful, someone I could talk to , and turn to for advice in my pregnancy..
Instead I am stuck with some woman who is obviously in the wrong career and doesn't seem to give a shit about her patients!!!
:x
[Modified by: Lucretia on 07 October 2008 19:28:32 ]
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she defiantely shld not be ticking things that she hasn't discussed with u
u really do need to be comfortable and happy with ur midwife as she's going to be with u through out the most important experience u'll ever have,
i wld suggest that u ask for a new midwife and maybe even put in a complaint about her as she really shoudn't be putting things in ur notes that she hasn't discussed with u
xx
We don't get weighed in my area apart from the booking visit as it is seen as unnecessary and movements could be whether SHE felt them during her examination rather than your report as would be too early for most ladies anyway.
Would be nice to actually be part of it though !!
My MW is fab and I ask her why/what/ where all the time!
I seem to be having the same trouble i am 34 weeks 3dys and this is my second child but first was just over 4yrs ago so forgotten few bits, i think they assume you know everything still! All she seems to do is do the basic checks and then send you on your way! I' m taken my mum next time as i keep forgetting to ask midwife questions must be the pregnancy brain haha! Hubby works during the day so it's difficult for him to get the time off! Have you got a friend that could go with you for support!!
Take care Mariex
and camlo, she didnt even do an examination, or even touch my stomach. The doppler touched it for all of a minute but that is it.
I understand that different midwifes do things differently but if all she did was take my blood pressure what is the point? she only checked for heartbeat as I asked to hear it and didnt even discuss anything with me, ask or inform about antenatal classes etc.. I had wanted to ask her some questions about the birth but she couldn't of rushed me out of there quicker.
I'd see about changing midwifes but she is the only one at my practice
carnt you see another mw at a drop in centre? get reasurrance!
take care sweet
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