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Who do you want at the birth with you?
Hi ladies,
Another post on here has made me think about who I want at the birth. I obviously want hubby there, but Im also very close to my mum and I know that she would be great support where sometimes hubby cant always sympathise or support me in the way that I want (years of being in the army has left him with a "worse things could happen" attitude!!!). However, I dont think hubby is quite so keen on that. I really would like a home birth and think it would be magical if it was just hubby and I but I would like my mum to feel involved too as she is so supportive but lives about an hour and a half away - she really wants to have an active role with this baby as her other grandchild lives about 7 hours away!!! I know she wouldnt interfere and would do her best not to intrude so Im not really concerned about that, its really hubby's thoughts on it that concern me.
Did anyone else have this dilema?
Becky
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Another post on here has made me think about who I want at the birth. I obviously want hubby there, but Im also very close to my mum and I know that she would be great support where sometimes hubby cant always sympathise or support me in the way that I want (years of being in the army has left him with a "worse things could happen" attitude!!!). However, I dont think hubby is quite so keen on that. I really would like a home birth and think it would be magical if it was just hubby and I but I would like my mum to feel involved too as she is so supportive but lives about an hour and a half away - she really wants to have an active role with this baby as her other grandchild lives about 7 hours away!!! I know she wouldnt interfere and would do her best not to intrude so Im not really concerned about that, its really hubby's thoughts on it that concern me.
Did anyone else have this dilema?
Becky
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Afterwards I asked OH if he felt left out, and he said it was such a relief to have her there, as she could empathise with me and reassure him, but it also meant that he could watch and see our son being born, rather than being at the head end! I wasn't sure wether I was impressed with that last comment but he said it felt really special for him to see it all.
This time, I am hoping it will be just me and OH as I hope I will be a bit calmer and more prepared for what is happening, but mum will be on standby just incase!!!!
Naomi xx
Em-24 weeks.
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since i had my DD in the same hospital im having this little one i know what they are like and want someone else with me as me and martin were practacly left on our own the whole time we were in there. my neice is in her second year training to be a nurse and then is going on the become a midwife so we are taking her in with us,
she is also more likley to remeber things that i forget, it also means im not going to freak if hubby needs to leave the room to go to the toilet, get a drink/something to eat.
I've got plenty of time to think about it anyway )
xxx
loren x x
I live about five hundred miles away from my parents. My mum has said she'd be nervous being there (she a midwife!) but I'll have to see. My dad, oddly enough, has said it wouldn't phase him. Not sure what I'll do but have got ages yet - I want to persuade OH to be honest!
My mum's a funny one and would say things like oh it can't hurt that much or in my day we didn't have any pain relief.
I know hubby wouldn't miss it for the world but i know that my friend will be great at encouraging me. I also don't want to be alone at any point even if i'm asleep so i think it's good to have 2 people there.
I think when the baby starts coming out i'd just like it to be me and hubby.