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What am I supposed to do????????
Hi everyone, as you may remember I found out I was pregnant with no 2 and my oh wasnt very keen but eventually came round to the idea and told me to keep the baby. Well 2 weeks later and completely out of the blue, he told me that if I dont have a temanation then he will leave me. OMG how do i make a descision like that?
Im soooooo confused, I love my oh so much but I also really want this baby.
Ive done nothing but cry for 2 days now and I cant carry on like this anymore.
Help or Advice needed soooooo much.
Kirsty
Im soooooo confused, I love my oh so much but I also really want this baby.
Ive done nothing but cry for 2 days now and I cant carry on like this anymore.
Help or Advice needed soooooo much.
Kirsty
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What a horrible situation to be in. I don't really have any advice but just wanted to say that I hope you can get things sorted out soon.
Did he give you a reason for changing his mind?
chloe xx
which will end ur relationship anyway. i really hope everything works out 4 u plz keep me updated.
luv clare.x.
claire x
I dont want to terminate but i also dont want to end my relationship, how am i going to ever going to trust him again, he is the love of my life that is breaking my heart. (
Is there anyone you can talk to/confide in? maybe your mum or a good friend? I know that you and OH created this baby-so should be between you both-but you are under so much stress right now, and probably cant think straight.In my opinion (sorry if this upsets you), he is being totally unfair. Temination shouldnt be seen as a method of contraception, and he should be man enough to deal with this. Ideally he would have a job and more money but you dont, and you are willing to go through with it. you already love your little bean-and need to make the decision yourself-as he is being totally selfish and putting you through hell-so is not worried about how you feel.so please take the same attitude as he has-and make the decision based on YOU.
Im sorry if my reply upsets anyone-its not meant to offend xx
chloe xx
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I really do want this little bean, my daughter is my life and I cant imagine life without her. Ive always wanted more, and I know this is not the ideal time but when is??????
You have all really helped me more than you could ever know and for that I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I AM going to keep this baby im just gutted that this is more than likley the end of my relationship, I thought we would be together forever and now im facing life as a single parent.
Who am i going to share all the little things with, When baby moves for the 1st time, my 1st midwife appoint, scan, etc. I cant imagine anyone i would want to share that with other than OH.
Im sure i will be fine, i have to be, my beautiful little lady needs me to be and so does this little bean, I just hope he/she is ok in there after all this stress, still got a while to go, am only 7 weeks.
Once again THANK YOU ALL SOOOOOOOOO MUCH, mwah xxxxxx
and to think he wnet along with the pregnancy and now changed his mind, thats just cruel in my eyes, he's allowed u to start bonding and accepting it and then throws this in. that is emotional blackmail at its lowest form!
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Si????n
i kno whow you feel i was in this situation not that long ago,i already have 5 kids only 1 are with my new partner.
the older ones are 14,12,10,9 and the little 1 is 2.when i found out i was pregnant hewent mad from the off and then i found out it was twins well that was it.
im now 28+5 and things are k,time does heel,just take each day as it comes .
mandy x
This is just my opinion hun and i don't ever want to upset you but to me love works both ways, to love him like you do and stand by him is not enough...... he has to love you like that too and if he doesn't, he doesn't deserve you or the baby.
love and hugs hunni
suzi xxxxxx
I'm sure your family will be there for you anyway and of course your little girl!
xxxxx
I cannot even believe your OH has said that to you. I'm so sorry for being so mad at your OH. I know we are all protective of our loved ones even if they are in the wrong. Your OH needs to be put in his place though and you need to be the one to do it.
Whatever you do, do NOT have an abortion. you do not want one and if you go ahead you will hate your OH forever for making you do that so you will loose him either way. Personally if he is that much of a coward that he will walk away from his family when you need him the most then let him. Whats he afraid of? A bit of hard work? He is putting the blame of this situation on your shoulders and forcing you to make HIS decision. You have made yours, you are keeping it. now he needs to decide whether he is going to be a father or not.
Tell him you are NOT choosing, he is the one with the choice to make not you. you are keeping the baby. He can either have a family, or he can have nothing. He will be the one suffering when he realises how alone he is without you and his babies, whilst you will have all the love and support from friends and family and you will have two lovely children to care for.
I am so P****d off that a man has said that to a woman.
I mean it when I say I am sorry for being so angry at your OH because I know you might be offended but its how I feel about the situation so...
Hannah
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I wish you all the luck in the world and hope your OH makes the right decision.
I feel calmer than I have done for days now and just hope that I can stay this way, my dayghter needs me to be strong and not keep falling apart.
Oooh how i wish the situation was different xx