Going to funeral
Hi
Ive got to do just about the hardest thing ever tomorrow, Im going to a funeral for a new born baby, my best friend lost one of her twins during child birth. I am neaarly 15 weeks pregnant and am extremely concerned that Im going to make a scene in the church as I just cant control the tears.
I think my friend has been so brave and is being a wonderful mother to her other baby.
Ive got to do just about the hardest thing ever tomorrow, Im going to a funeral for a new born baby, my best friend lost one of her twins during child birth. I am neaarly 15 weeks pregnant and am extremely concerned that Im going to make a scene in the church as I just cant control the tears.
I think my friend has been so brave and is being a wonderful mother to her other baby.
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Thank you for your kind words, I have really struggled dealing with this, especially with being pregnant, I havent slept for a week.
I tried to buy a sympathy card and broke down in the shop, I had to put the card back and leave, I dont think anything has ever affected me this badly, I consider myself a strong person, and now I am petrified about giving birth, even though this is not my first child.
Thanks again for your support, it does help!
Have you ever been to a baby's funeral before? I cant lie to you, its the most awful thing ever. I attended a baby's funeral a couple of months when I was 26 wks pregnant. I was prepared though as I have unfortunately had a couple of these situations this year. You need to remain strong and take plenty of tissues. It's not going to be easy but you can do it for your friend. Take care babe xxxx
No I havent ever been to a funeral like this and I am dreading it, but your right, she is my best friend and she is the one who has lost the baby so I am going to have to be strong for her.
Thanks
Having spent a lot of the last couple of years in the baby garden at the crem we have realised that babies dying is a fact of life - not one we had given much thought to before, it is awful to see all the little graves. And I really admire parents who make it through the most incredibly hard experience - but they do manage,
My 4th baby is due next week and as I am now 40 I am very worried about something bad happening. The CONI team are now giving me support to help with my anxieties. CONI stands for Care of the Next Infant - they are mainly for parents who have lost babies to cot death. But 'CONI plus' can help family members who have also suffered,and they help parents who have lost babies to something other than cot death. Maybe they would be able to help you - you can contact them through FSIDs website. If they are not the right people to help maybe talking to some kind of counseller would help you - talking to someone neutral could help you support your friend and help with fears you may now have with your own pregnancy.
You and your friend are in my thoughts.
Alison 39+1 x
Garfield
40+7
XX
My gran once told me that life is like a garden - you always pick the best flowers first. That baby must be very special. My thoughts are with you for tomorrow.
i hope you can find the strength to be strong for your friend and also yourself. It'll be a tough day but you'll get through it, is your oh going too?
Take care and thinking about your friend and praying you will be ok too.
Filo x
my heart goes out to you, your friend and family. it must be so hard, i cant imagine how hard it must be for you all. my thoughts are with you x