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in Baby
To marry or not to marry that is the question!
I suspect my oh is thinking about proposing to me...to tell you the truth instead of feeling happy and excited it makes me feel sick and nervous! I don't know why, we've been together for over 4 years, but the thought of marriage turns me into a wreck.
Is marriage a good idea, or not????
xoxoxox
I suspect my oh is thinking about proposing to me...to tell you the truth instead of feeling happy and excited it makes me feel sick and nervous! I don't know why, we've been together for over 4 years, but the thought of marriage turns me into a wreck.
Is marriage a good idea, or not????
xoxoxox
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I started seeing oh in 1997 so I had a long wait for him to propose but he finally did.
You have to follow your heart if he asks you. What makes you so nervous? My sister has 2 lo's with her oh - they are engaged now but no immediate plans to get married.
I am married, it will be 2 years in April, and we have been together 5 years. We had a small wedding too (only 20 people), Register Office (with a beach setting behind the building) then to a local hotel for the reception. I love being married.
Septembermama
Even if he does propose there's no need to rush into the actual marriage though. We were together for 16 years before we got married, we not ones to rush into things
I dont really feel like it's such a big step though as we already live together, just feel like it will complete us really, had our little girl nine days ago and registered her on friday and I dont like that we haven't all got the same name at the mo. only 3 and a half months to go though.
I love being a "proper" married family now tho, I feel so much more secure
Do what your heart tells you.....but honesty that ring doesn't make that much difference apart from a bit of a tax break!!
xx
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Now I can see what it's all about I'd only say go for it if you are 100% sure and can't imagine living without them.
I just don't feel the need to get married.
I don't think that getting married has made a difference to our relationship - in fact having a child made more of a difference as nothing really changed after the wedding. I was never bothered about getting married before (and i was with my ex 7 1/2 years) but with hubby it just felt right, and it made us more of a family.
The name change is ap ain in the arse though - having to get everything changed - still haven't and we've been married over a year! I'm not that bothered about being a mrs or having the same name as hubby the way a lot of people do like that but i think it does make life easier for us all to have the same name. Personally I'd have been happy to keep my name but it meant a lot to my hubby to have me take his name so I did.
I don't think it'd change alot apart from the number on your bank statement afterwards! Lol xxxx
We had a low key wedding, registry office followed by recpetion at our local village hall (conveniently a converted barn!). A beautiful honeymoon. I didnt know where we we're going and throughout the while trip oh left envelopes hidden for me letting me know what to pack and where we might be going (found one behind aeroplane lap tray, one under my sunbed towel and even one waiting for us when we got down to breakfast at a hotel one morning, there was 11 in all, very romantic)
As far as NAGGING is oncerned though. I always say we only have to ask them to do stuff because they just dont "see" what needs doing themselves (ie, the bin overflowing or the dishwasher being empty but cups going on the side!). And nagging is just us asking them repeatedly. Well, if they did it the 1st time we wouldnt have to go on would we!!