Am I Being Stupid? *UPDATE*
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my oh works about 20 mins away (in a car) and it's all busy main roads the whole way, anyway, my oh doesn't drive and used to get a lift off 2 friends to work which was fine until 1 friend left 2 weeks ago, his other friend is on holiday for a week next week and my oh wants to cycle to work and back!! he used to have a motorbike and had a really nasty accident on the road to work a few years ago where he broke his back, ankle and arm and was in hosp for 3 months! my dad will quite happily take him to and from work next week but my oh has told me not to ask him cuz he thinks it's too much to ask...but is it too much for me to ask that he puts his safety first with having an 8 week old baby?! it'll be dark when he leaves in the mornings and it'll be dark when he comes home, it'll take him at least an hour and a half to get there cuz it's all up-hill so he'll have to leave at stupid o'clock in the morning...am i being stupid getting upset about this? he's adamant he wants to cycle but i'm so upset about it (
[Modified by: mrsjbourne on 15 November 2008 22:04:18 ]
[Modified by: mrsjbourne on 15 November 2008 22:04:18 ]
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When I was working, i'd drop my dh off at the train station on my way to work and i'd pick him up at the end of the day too. In the school hols, he would cycle. Last Feb, during half term he cycled on an icy day. A car overtook him and because he hadn't de-iced properly caught dh with the back of his car. Luckily, dh had a change of clothes in his bag which he landed on. He had a sore arm and that was it but his bike was badly damaged.
Anyway, he's tried cycling since we've had lo but he's had more near misses so won't do it anymore. He walks to the station and I sometimes pick him up in the evening.
Hope I havn't worried you more but wanted to show your right to feel the way you do!
Just a thought, hope you don't mind an alternative viewpoint!
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I can understand why you would be worried, i wouldnt like Rob on his bike during the winter, i hope you manage to persuade him to get a lift xxx
There are no cycle paths on my hubby's route either - his consists of 3 miles on a very busy A road and 6 miles on winding (but well-used) country lanes. I think that roads with cycle lanes are more dangerous than those without, to be honest.... you often hear of cyclists having accidents because a vehicle turns left and just doesn't see or acknowledge the cycle lane. If there is no cycle lane a sensible cyclist will cycle right out in the road, which means s/he's far more visible. And about pavements - cyclists shouldn't be on pavements at all ?
Hope no one thinks I'm arguing or saying you're wrong to worry - that's the last thing I mean. I worry as much as the next person about my hubby, but he statistics show that he's more likely to add a few years to his life cycling regularly than he is to have an accident
mrsjbourne - I hope next week doesn't prove to be too stressful for you. It's horrible when everything comes along at once. Hopefully hubby will come round to your way of thinking, if only for your peace of mind.
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