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Theoretical question of course.....
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Just wondered whether you would ever consider being a surrogate for close family or friend?
Reason I ask is because a very good friend of mine is finally thinking of starting a family in say next couple of years and im well excited! weve been friends for 17 years and since I had my first daughter 11 years ago I have sometimes felt she would never take that step! (shes been with her OH for about 13 yrs) But then she said after all this what if I couldnt have children? to which I replied id have one for you! (in a semi serious but joking kinda way!)
But i did say I couldnt use my own eggs i would only be a host surrogate say using her eggs fertilised beforehand.
When i told my Oh of this conversation he was like do i have a say!! 9 months of your hormones and no baby at the end!! lol
Now obviously im hoping it would never come to that anyway but did get me thinking...do you think you could do it??
Heidi xx
Reason I ask is because a very good friend of mine is finally thinking of starting a family in say next couple of years and im well excited! weve been friends for 17 years and since I had my first daughter 11 years ago I have sometimes felt she would never take that step! (shes been with her OH for about 13 yrs) But then she said after all this what if I couldnt have children? to which I replied id have one for you! (in a semi serious but joking kinda way!)
But i did say I couldnt use my own eggs i would only be a host surrogate say using her eggs fertilised beforehand.
When i told my Oh of this conversation he was like do i have a say!! 9 months of your hormones and no baby at the end!! lol
Now obviously im hoping it would never come to that anyway but did get me thinking...do you think you could do it??
Heidi xx
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I just think it would be such a lovely gift to give your friend if she cant have children seeing them with a LO in their arms xx bet shes glad shes got you as her friend xx
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Think I'd be able to do it but only as a host kinda thing. I wouldn't be able to cope knowing that my biological child was living with someone else, no matter who it was, close friend or complete stranger
I think that although it would be lovely for someone to experience pregnancy that using donated eggs just to achieve this is selfish when there are plenty of children already waiting for loving homes - adoption week last week really highlighted it for me...but then I guess if there isn't a problem with OH's sperm then some would like donated eggs so atleast the child is biologically linked to the couple...it's so hard, there's lots of if's & buts!
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just felt so sad for them and if had a mansion and was rich would love to adopt them all! really do hopw they find some loving homes for the children, it brings it home to you when you see their plights on the telly xxx
Kerry, Freya and Bump
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please ask any questions about surrogacy if you like. it is so rewarding and takes a very special person to do it! xx
really hope all the best for you and wont be long before youre holding a gorgeous little bundle in your arms!
Heidi xx
we are going to the scan, we are involved with as much as we can be. it is quite a journey though, 5-7 hours depending on the traffic. the surrogate was a stranger to us, which i think is good in a way for us. everybody is different. if you are close to the person it can become highly charged with emotions. i would suggest you read the book surrogacy was the way by zara griswold if you ever thought you were going to go down this route. there is 20 short stories of all different circumstances, i found it quite helpful. your right it does take an amazing and unique person. and some surrogacies work and some fall apart.
thanks for all your well wishes. i am soo nervous for friday. fingers and toes all crossed!! i'm finding it hard to sleep and have a retched cold!
your little bubba in the photo looks cute!!
ask away if you ever want to know or discuss anything. xx
and congratulations. xx