TMI sorry but has anyone else experienced this
For any mummmy's out there who had an episiotamy(sp?) have you had a look down there and been okay with the results of your stitches. I am not at all. *TMI bit* it looks awfull nothing like it did before and i know that part of our bodies isn't exactly the pritiest bit but it looks horible now. the opening to my vagina looks huge and horrid and i just hate it. Sometimes inside it feels like i am wearing a tampax that i haven't inserted right, but there isn't one in there and air keeps getting caught up there and i have little (soory only way i can think to describe it) fanny farts (sorry). I really want to have sex with dh again but am so self conciuos of how i look down there and don't know what to do. was going to ask doctor at my 6 wk checkup earlier but ,as many have experienced, it was a waste of time. only thing good to come out of it was i got the pill. She didn't ask anything about my stitches letalone look at them. When i mentioned i was due a smear test she said that there wasn't any time and looked at my wee man who was crying for a feed. I would have been more likely to mention my feelings had she have done one.
Has anyone else felt like me or had the same experiences with there stitches but still gone on to enjoy a healthy sex life?
Sorry my post is so long but had to let it al out.
love fiona and hayden
Has anyone else felt like me or had the same experiences with there stitches but still gone on to enjoy a healthy sex life?
Sorry my post is so long but had to let it al out.
love fiona and hayden
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I didn't have an episiotamy but I did have stitches. I look different down below now to when I did before (even tho oh says it does feel any different). When I have a feel it also feels like a have a dislodged, sort tampax in. It also look spermatently like I have just has sex (swallen and red) (OMG, Sorry far to much information for the internet) I haven't had a smear as I'm not old enough. If you are worried go and get it checked out with your gp or practice nurse.
Hope this helps and sorry girls for the TMI.
Kerry, Freya and Bump
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i had a third degree tear and ended up with two hours worth of stitches. I only dared look once, a few weeks after, and spent two days in tears as it looked very holey (It looked as though i had five holes - TMI). My GP was supposed to check everything had healed ok but when i turned up to the appointment I was told it wasn't their job and the midwife should have done it.
It didn't take long to stop being painful but definitely took a while to feel normal and heal properly, probably 2 -3 months (I have never looked again). I can feel a line of scar tissue but thats it.
I waited a long time before attempting sex (4 months at least) and the first few times were quite painful but that was because I was so worried. Lots of lubrication and things were better, my husband said he didn't notice any difference. I had my baby in october last year and I am currently 29 weeks pregnant so things do go back to normal.
I was given a gynae appointment three months after giving birth by the hospital to be checked over and I was sent for an internal scan which showed everything had healed excellently. I don't know when you had your little one but perhaps making an appointment with your GP and asking to be referred back to the hospital for a check up might be a good idea even if it is just to put your mind at ease. I feel very lucky as i know i had the most qualified surgeon for the job do my stitching and my consultant has been excellent about ensuring everything is working fine down there so i would push your GP to see someone specifically qualified int hat area if you are worried.
you sound in an awful mess!!
firstly, try not to worry too much at the moment about your bits - if Hayden isnt that old, it can still look like a battle zone down there. time will heal it up properly, and altho' the skin may have healed, it will still look pretty frightening!
on the other hand, try having a bit with your bloke, but as pp said, go carefully with a good bit of KY jelly. if after a number of "goes"! it still not good, go back to your GP and ask for refferal to a gynaecologist, who could have a damn good look at your bits.
also, dont forget that you squeezed something that big out of your bits, which is usually only used to willies, and lets be honest, no blokes willy is that big!!! many women report after childbirth / pregnancy that they never feel the same.
the other thing about your smear is that it shouldnt be done until 12weeks at least after your birth, due to hormones etc, so you'll have to go back....... (
I know its not something you'd ideally like to discuss with your doctor, but i'm sure they will be very understanding, and can refer you to someone to help xx
Ollier you made me giggle with what you said about mens willys, it is so true! i didn't know about having to wait 12 wks before smear so will talk to my hv in morning about it when she does the wee mans checkup. have booked it for 3 dec and he will only be 8 wks then. so see what she says then.
Thanks again ladies, love fiona and Hayden
the only women that would routinely be offered screening before 25 are those that are immunosuppressed - ie HIV
click on the link below for why it recommends this etc
http://www.cancerscreening.nhs.uk/cervical/#invited
I was told by my surgery that unless there is a family history (which there isn't) I can't have a smear till I'm 25. I'm only 23. To be honest I'm not too keen on having a smear so not overly worried about it. But If and when I am sent that dreaded letter I will go. I do think tho that the age should be brought back down again.
Kerry, Freya and Bump
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i tend to agree with you, Kerry, that it should be 20 again, as i know 2 women less than 25 who 1 died, and 1 had radio / chemotherapy to sort it. she is unable to have children now, and would have been missed otherwise.
as for your 19yr old friend, this is where the arguement starts - it is felt that many young women have had unnecceassry (oops) treatment to their cervix, risking the problems of cervical incompetence (RARE) in pregnancy, because it is felt that the cells collected from an "immature" cervix, result in false positives and are treated.