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Honest opinions please?
in Baby
My MIL creeps me out and I was wondering if I am over-reacting, so could Ihave your opinions on what she does.
1 calls Connor HER baby
2 holds him whilst simutainiously nuzzling his face with hers and rubbing her face with his hand
3 shushes us when wespeak if hes asleep
4 tells us what to do with him, eg dont sit him like that put him in the chair (she bought lots of nursery stuff for her house)
5 demands tohold him when we are
6 on one occasion when i was breastfeeding him sat next to me and tried stroking his cheeks
is this odd or are some people like this, it freaks me out!
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1 calls Connor HER baby
2 holds him whilst simutainiously nuzzling his face with hers and rubbing her face with his hand
3 shushes us when wespeak if hes asleep
4 tells us what to do with him, eg dont sit him like that put him in the chair (she bought lots of nursery stuff for her house)
5 demands tohold him when we are
6 on one occasion when i was breastfeeding him sat next to me and tried stroking his cheeks
is this odd or are some people like this, it freaks me out!
xx
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keeps going on about cant wait to hold it.
tells me how to put it to sleep in cot.
etc etc!!!!
must admit though that i call neighbours baby my baby,lol
Seriously, my mil loves Gabe to bits. She snuggles him, gives him sloppy kisses & rocks him to sleep when he is fighting it. What's wrong with that?? I'm pleased that other people are cuddly and affectionate with him...
Having said that he's your baby and it would definitely annoy me if she told me what to do with Gabe. She knows that if she does, I'll just do the opposite anyway!
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My friend is like this with my baby and I know for a fact that she certainly wouldn't want to be taking him home. I'm also like this with babies of my friends as well.
Maybe it's down to how tactile a person you are (very in my case!) and what you are comfortable with. I would be so happy if my mil or my mum showed even a quarter of as much interest in my lo!xx
I wouldn't like someone being that close when I was bfing, by stroking lo's cheeks they would be getting quite close to my boob! The only time when that would be ok for me would be if it was a mw or bfing counsellor right at the beginning. And I couldn't really say about no 2, it just sounded more intense than I would expect from a grandparent. DIdn't mean to offend anyone, that was just my immediate reaction- but like I say I'm a fairly reserved person.
I would have snapped by now!!
I would have snapped by now!!
I know its weird for us when our mils get too close cos they arent our mums but their grandchildren mean as much to them as they do to our mums. Im sure she doesnt mean to freak you out. Maybe one day you will be annoying connors wife and you will realise she didnt mean to annoy you lol
Thanks
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I have problems with my mil so can totall y understand where you coming from.
Yesterday both pil were round and were talking about the fact they wern't looking forward to being grandparents, that they couldn't see what all the fuss was about until she was born.......and I quote "until they got thier girl"
I had to bite my tongue, they have 2 boys so I can see where they're coming from, BUT, she's MY girl........
As for the stroking his face while being bf - my mil liked to watch my lo being bf and I found it really odd - I didn't mind my mum as she was there for the birth and she helped me through a difficult time. My mil was really impressed with how I was doing so well with it though - the first time I think she's complemented something i've done!!
I've had my mill snatch my lo from me when she was crying - I was not happy! I can understand her wanting to hold her but not to snatch her.
And....yes tries to tell us what to do and not to do - including not giving her her dummy because she didn't want her to have one!!! And constantly telling me she needs lots of hats for the cold weather.
It doesn't creep me out, just really really irritates me!!
I'm lucky though as my dh usually agrees with me and sees my side, does your oh know how you feel? It helps me to have a moan with him and know it's not my imagination and hormones!!!
Sorry - just realised i've had my own rant!!!!! Just wanted to let you know your not on your own!
Lisa (btw I have Louise who is 19 weeks old)
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My mil flies off the handle over the tiniest things crying shouting, slamming doors and throwing things, tbh it worries me. how do you talk to someone like that?