Work... or benifits?
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I really have no idea what to do... i am perfectly welcome to go back to my old job at the end of my maternity leave in January... but apart from actually not wanting to... i've worked out that i would actually be more out of pocket with paying for childcare etc than i would be if i didn't work at all.
I really do want to work, and im doing a course on a friday in accountancy to help me do something different.
Do i just go for work and be out of pocket for a few years til i get a better job/promo/pay-rise or do i just stick with the college course and not work?
I seems obvious to work, but i\ve got to pay the bills!! What have you ladies done and why did you choose to do it?
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I really do want to work, and im doing a course on a friday in accountancy to help me do something different.
Do i just go for work and be out of pocket for a few years til i get a better job/promo/pay-rise or do i just stick with the college course and not work?
I seems obvious to work, but i\ve got to pay the bills!! What have you ladies done and why did you choose to do it?
xxx
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My 9 mths is up in feb. I love the type of job but not the actual job. As in the staff where I work are ok but dont really work as part of a team. Also there has been a few changes and it takes about 40mins traveling.
I am about to work it out this w/e, but I think we are better off money wise if I dont work as its expensive finding childcare. I think I might do something part time like usbourne or something and go back to work when she is a bit older. It will be interesting to see what everyone else is doing. xxx
I agree that childcare will take up most of my wage so really I want to bring up my boy not someone else if I can manage it! But think I might go a little potty if I don't talk to some other adults on a regular basis! Think part time is the option for me but with my job (teaching) part time doesn't really exist. I used to work 15 hour days so if Iwas part time I'd be craming that into 2 or 3 days.
Think I need to talk to my boss and see what she says-hope she'll understand. Maybe I'll do the ostrich thing till after Crimbo?
Glad I'm not the only one feeling all confused about the work/home thing! x
It is a personal decision really depending on your circumstances, but if you would like to work I would explore your options and think about whether you have a friend or family member you would trust to help with childcare as that can make a huge difference money wise. x
So i decided NOT to return,at first i looked into part time work which i did for afew weeks but this halved my benefits and luckily i have my mum who can look after my son,but she works too so it can only be part time,if i worked full time and used a nursery(which tbh i dont really want to do,why pay someone else to look after my child when i can do it myself?)it would not be worth my while to work!its a crazy system!
Im also a single mum,i get help but its not that much when i have a mortgage to pay,dont get help with hopusing which annoys me,ppl who rent do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
no help from the dad!
BUT staying at home unthough i love the time with lo drives me mad on a permantant basis...very lonely too!
SO,I now work for myself part time doing cleaning for ppl,i can work it round the hrs my mum wrks and i really enjoy it,also enjoy the time i spend with lo much more now...as i do under so many hrs a week i still get some benefits,its not easy but personally i need to get out the house and do something but full time work just doesnt make sense in my situation,i worked it out and i would be better offf NOT to work!!!and they wonder why ppl chose not to huh?????
I couldn't give up work altogether tho as hubbby's wage isn't great and mine is the one that pays the mortgage.
Good luck in deciding what to do.
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A place i used to work offered childcare vouchers, so if u want to work then mayb it mite b worth findin an employer that mite b able to help with childcare costs. Good luck!
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For me it was important to get out and see people and I was able to cope without the extra money. Also , looking at it as more of a long term view I would be unlikely to hold the position and earn the salary I do now if I hadnt gone back then.
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Its very hard on you, you know, to work, do a college course and do your other full time job aswel-being mum! i haven't touched my college work for about 2 months, i haven't got the time or energy but if i complete this course my life and financial situation would be great!
I would say to you to concentrate on your baby and your course, your not planning on never going back so whats a few months!!
I've tried to be wonder woman and it can't be done, i suffered, hubby suffered and more importantly my lil boy suffered, i only do one day a week now!
I think if its not essential you return then don't!
Good luck
I do worry that by taking myself out of the working arena I am missing out, but I love being a stay at home mother far more than I thought I would and appreciate that I am very lucky in that respect. We are due to start trying for another in Jan and Neve will start Nursery one morning a week as well so that she learns that being cared for by others is fine (and I can get some housework done!). I have found though that I really need things like babygroups and contact with other mothers or it can be a bit lonely. On the upside - Neve's first birthday present is an edwardian nursing chair that I have restored from scratch myself and it means a lot to me. Even if I do usually know more about In The Night Garden than the daily news headlines!
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