xmas card note opinions (not really baby related)
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Opinions on a note I'm planning to write in an xmas card please!
Firstly some history behind it.....sorry very long!! lol
Last year when I got married I had 3 bridesmaids, 2 friends and my dh's cousin. I have not seen one of the since that day - August 2007. We went to school together and became best friends when we did our nursery nurse training together. While at uni I did supply work in the nursery she worked at and still works at. One night we went out clubbing and me and other girl encouraged her to kiss a guy who was chatting her up - it was her first ever 'snog.......from then on she changed and is still with him despite other workmates seeing him flirt with other girls infront of her!!!!
She is large and I had to have the dresses espcially made for her to be a bridesmade, almost didn't come to my hen night and I had to cancel my weekend away because she decided she couldn't make it for various reasons.
We moved after the wedding and i've invited her round a few times but she's always busy. I've asked to meet her onher lunch break but gave up because she would never agree a day.
Louise was born 2 weeks late, I sent her the same announcement text that everyone else got but apparently didn't get it as when I invited herto a bbq a few weeks later she said she didn't know she'd been born - but as usual couldn't come. I suggested meeting her for lunch and invited her again but she always says she'll get back to me because she's so busy with either work or family things she lives at home with her parents, nan and boyfriend.
She does always send me a birthday card and xmas card - I'm thinking about writing this in hers.....
To.......
Hope you have a lovely christmas. I'm very upset that dispite inviting you over and asking to meet you for lunch I have not seen you since my wedding day. I'm particulary upset that you have not made the effort to meet Louise.
Congratulations on your promotion to manager, I found out because you told xxx. I hope that your new role makes you happy.
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It doesn't seem long enough really to get accross how upset and annoyed I am at her!!! What else can I put - I'm not sure it will make any difference ut feel I really want to say something!
Lisa
Firstly some history behind it.....sorry very long!! lol
Last year when I got married I had 3 bridesmaids, 2 friends and my dh's cousin. I have not seen one of the since that day - August 2007. We went to school together and became best friends when we did our nursery nurse training together. While at uni I did supply work in the nursery she worked at and still works at. One night we went out clubbing and me and other girl encouraged her to kiss a guy who was chatting her up - it was her first ever 'snog.......from then on she changed and is still with him despite other workmates seeing him flirt with other girls infront of her!!!!
She is large and I had to have the dresses espcially made for her to be a bridesmade, almost didn't come to my hen night and I had to cancel my weekend away because she decided she couldn't make it for various reasons.
We moved after the wedding and i've invited her round a few times but she's always busy. I've asked to meet her onher lunch break but gave up because she would never agree a day.
Louise was born 2 weeks late, I sent her the same announcement text that everyone else got but apparently didn't get it as when I invited herto a bbq a few weeks later she said she didn't know she'd been born - but as usual couldn't come. I suggested meeting her for lunch and invited her again but she always says she'll get back to me because she's so busy with either work or family things she lives at home with her parents, nan and boyfriend.
She does always send me a birthday card and xmas card - I'm thinking about writing this in hers.....
To.......
Hope you have a lovely christmas. I'm very upset that dispite inviting you over and asking to meet you for lunch I have not seen you since my wedding day. I'm particulary upset that you have not made the effort to meet Louise.
Congratulations on your promotion to manager, I found out because you told xxx. I hope that your new role makes you happy.
From
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It doesn't seem long enough really to get accross how upset and annoyed I am at her!!! What else can I put - I'm not sure it will make any difference ut feel I really want to say something!
Lisa
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Perhaps you could just tell her some more about louise, make her realise what she is missing out on? Tell her you're interested to know about her knew promotion, and provoke a response by asking questions? Tell her it would mean a lot to you to spend some time with her, and also be quite blunt about the way she's been avoiding you.
Saying that, i've done that numerous times with my friend and got nothing, though she's very stubborn!
i know how hard it is, especially when this "friend" is all over your wedding pictures! just remember though it's her loss if she doesnt respond! good luck XX
I'd either do as the others suggest and cut your losses altogether, or just say something like "It's a real shame that you haven't been able to see us in so long. I'd really like you to meet my daughter and catch up."
I know that doesn't express your annoyance, but I'd always take the line of being the bigger person, personally.
xxx
But if it will make you feel better by sending her a card I would write the card & post a letter inside it that way you can take the time & space to write exactly what you want to.
I can understand why you want to do it but to be honest she really doesn't sound worth it & i'd say once things go t*ts up for her in her life she'll soon come running back to you but is that really what you want? I don't think I could or would want to be friends with someone who makes zero effort with me no matter how welcoming & accomodating I am for them.
Good luck with whatever you decide & DON'T let this spoil you & your daughter's 1st christmas together, you only get the one xxx
xxx
I have written it saying that I'm upset that she has been too busy to get together since the wedding and has not met Louise. I then put 'congratulations on your promotion, I hope it makes you happy'. And left it at that.
I think I did mention it before Linzi, and yes it's such a pain tohave her all over our wedding pics - I picked 2 with no bridesmaids to go on our walls!
If I get no response then thats it - I'll take all your advice and leave it be - she's not worth it.
And in no way is it going to ruin Louise's first christmas, I'm more excited about christmas than I have been for a long time!
Anyway, good on you for telling her how she's made you feel, I hope she can make more of an effort. If not, she's not worth it.
xxx
And yes Riley and Louise were born on the same day!!