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I'm having a real hard time at the moment and would love some advice from working mums.
I work full time 9 - 5. My lo is in nursery 8.30 - 5 and loves it BUT she is never there because she is always ill.
Two weeks ago it was tonsilitis and conjuntivits this week it's a cold. Friday i had a call to go get her but they rang at 3.30 so i said i couldn't leave (as it was only 1 hour and a bit). Yesterday i got a call at 1.30 to get her. I took her to see the nurse and she has high temp, sore ear and throat so she's off again.
I had found out in the meantime that my boss isn't happy about the amount of time i've had off with her and my own problems (i've had just over two weeks off and both with sick notes since i came back in March).
He has now made me feel that i can't leave work if Summer needed me and that i cant be off. The week i had off as she was poorly before was unpaid.
I obviously now don't want to be at work anymore. What can i claim? I've been working at the same place now for 11 years.
I work full time 9 - 5. My lo is in nursery 8.30 - 5 and loves it BUT she is never there because she is always ill.
Two weeks ago it was tonsilitis and conjuntivits this week it's a cold. Friday i had a call to go get her but they rang at 3.30 so i said i couldn't leave (as it was only 1 hour and a bit). Yesterday i got a call at 1.30 to get her. I took her to see the nurse and she has high temp, sore ear and throat so she's off again.
I had found out in the meantime that my boss isn't happy about the amount of time i've had off with her and my own problems (i've had just over two weeks off and both with sick notes since i came back in March).
He has now made me feel that i can't leave work if Summer needed me and that i cant be off. The week i had off as she was poorly before was unpaid.
I obviously now don't want to be at work anymore. What can i claim? I've been working at the same place now for 11 years.
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ur boss cant speak to u like that its not ur fault u are entitled to time off when u have children!
or direct them to the direct gov website which will explaine it all
my boss is the same doesnt no what i am entilted to and once out me as holiday for Lennon being off sick,i only work 4-8 monday-thursday so can sometimes go in later and ask hubby to get hime or my mum fins at 4.30
tax credits wont be able to help you i dnt think because they can give you a direct answer,doubt they would be much help
I too have had to have unpaid time off work due to my son being ill. He had chickenpox earlier this year and was quite poorly for 2 weeks. In his first month at nursery he wasn't in for more than 3 consecutive days because he kept getting gastric bugs.
Work shouldn't moan about it (although you will always get those that do), but as you are within your rights to take unpaid time off they cannot take any action on it. If they did they would be in breach of employment law.
You will just have to hope in time that your LO will build up a really strong immunity and will get ill less often.
Try not to worry about it, as you are not taking liberties at work, and as you said your little girl needs you.
I had two weeks off unpaid in Nov, first week my eldest had chicken pox then the following Mon he was able to go back to school but my youngest came out in spots so had to have a second week off.
Then last week my eldest was sick at school and although he was absolutly fine after they don't allow them back for 48 hrs if they've been sick so that was another 2 and a half days off (half day because i was called on the first day to go and get him)
And then today I get a call from nursery to say my youngest had a high temp and i had to go and get him and they said if i had to give him any more calpol tonight (which i have!) he can't go in tomorrow so today was another half day and i'll be off tomorrow too now!!
I'm a single mum and the only family i have is my mum who works full time so i literally have no one else to look after them!
the parental leave that chuffedbaby2 mentioned does have to be planned in advance but like grudie said you are entitled to unpaid time off to look after a sick child without getting into trouble at work, i've gone well over the 13 days though!!
people keep saying to me "it's just that time of year" or "there's a lot of it going about!" so i'm just hoping it will get a bit better in the new year, maybe it will for you too?
And off course i'm off unpaid for two weeks from mon as i have no childcare in the xmas hols!!!!!!!
As far as what you can get I am not sure. I was thinking of looking into this for my husband to give up his work and look after Kara as I earn more than him. I don't think it would work though as they take my income into consideration as well. The system is awful for working mothers.
[Modified by: grudie on December 17, 2008 10:25 AM]
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hope it helps xx
I feel slightly bullied about it all but i can't wait to spend more time with Summer and just wish i sat down and worked things out before i returned to work in March as i've wasted so much time with Summer.
The only drawback is that i might have to pay a whole month's nursery fee for January even though Summer will be going 2 days a week. ??745 down the drain.
Thank you all for your replies and support - more than i get from work!!!