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Do you think you can 'spoil' a baby?
I love carrying Gabe round in a baby carrier and snuggling him up on the sofa or napping in bed together. He has a bit of seperation anxiety and is teething badly so it is a comfort to him. These days he is held most of the day.Yet mil thinks I am spoiling him! Where do people get these ideas from?? To me, spoiled is when parents buy their kids whatever they want. I never thought you could 'spoil' a child with love......any insight?
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The only time he sleeps on me is when he is poorly and i love it and hate the fact that he's not happy to sleep on me any other time!
I will be cuddling this baby as much as i want- don't listen to mil follow what you want and whats best for Gabe!
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At first i listened to them (only did for a couple of days) but wasnt happy doing it then hubby said we should do what makes us happy and even if they do get into a bad habbit we'll deal with it later and as they grow up so quickley we should just enjoy the times we share with our lo's. i feel he's right as they do grow quickley. We're always cuddling amara and she loves it. I'd say carry on.
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I don't think you can spoil them with love...I teach in one of the most deprived schools in the country and loads of the kids in my class crave love.
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My mum 'spoilt' us with love. We would snuggle up in her bed or on couch. Me on one side, sis on the other and my brother in middle. I think thats the reason we are so close now. My mum still spoils me and i love it when she gives me big cuddles! I hope me and frankie can have a similar relationship.
I say if you're happy and Gabe is happy then carry on. Can't see the harm in it!! I bet he loves knowing he has a mummy who loves him!!
Ignore your MIL, they can be so bloody annoying sometimes! (No offence!!)
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[Modified by: garfield on December 18, 2008 11:07 PM]
Louise naps on me during the day, people say to me 'do i nap when she naps' or 'you must get bits done when she's napping rather than relaxing yourself'...Nope - when Louise is sleeping I sit on BE and facebook and watch tv! lol
i think we have to do what makes us mummy's and our lo's happy. I think it is wrong to spoil a baby with material things so that they think everything will always fall on thier lap, or if they always get thier own way, but spoiling them with love is a lovely thing to do.
She always wants the first cuddle when Ollie wakes up, which annoys me as its usually the ONLY cuddle i get all day, he prefers his dad to me.
but he gets lots of cuddles and kisses and attention from us all, and I prefer that to giving him material things all the time.
MIL seems to think that giving him a new toy or 5 everytime she sees him is only 'treating' him and doesnt understand that it is actually spoiling him... thats what grates on me. Especially as at 18 months he knws exactly what is happening!
In answer to your qu, no you cannot spoil a baby with love, provided it is love and not just 'material' love (did that make sense?)
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I found this poem on the internet and read it on my babys naming day, I think it sums the point of cuddles up exactly.
It's 3am and they're asleep
And no-ones here to see
As we rock slowly back and forth
My baby boy and me
His little head is feather light
Tucked underneath my chin
I hold his tiny little hand
And stroke his baby skin
The house about us creaks and moans
The clock hands creep around
He snuggles close to me still
And makes his baby sounds
I love these quiet hours so much
And cherish every one
Store memories up into my heart
For lonely nights to come
All too soon he'll be grown up
His need for mummy gone
But untill then I have the time
For kisses and a song
Time for quiet hours like this
With him snuggled in my arms
Where I wish that he would always stay
Protected safe from harm
And yet I know the day will come
When his tiny little hand
Will be much bigger than my own
He'll grow to be a man
But untill then he's mine to love
With no-one here to see
As we rock slowly back and forth
My baby boy and me.
I love that poem but it always makes me cry when it says he'll grow to be a man.
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No, you can't spoil babies with love, and cuddles should never be rationed! As others have said, I think it is the material things you need to watch out for, otherwise they will think that if they want something they can always have it.
At the same time though, I do like Beth to have lots of cuddles and kisses from all her relatives, not just me. So if someone is visiting they get automatic snuggling rights, and I make up for lost time later on! But it's wonderful when she looks around, sees me and gives me a big smile.
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with charlie he is in his own bed from 6pm - 6am then we cuddle up on the sofa and he goes back to sleep till 8am i love those two hours and would love to do it all night but cant do it to my self again. he also spend most of his napping him on me like he is the now