overreacting?? Advice please.
Well basically according to my sil she doesnt get Gabe enough!!
My OH told me this today. He said that she is fed up of me fussing around her when Gabe cries. That's really annoyed me. When Gabe cries and he is on someone else, yes I do go over and take him off them!! I'm his mum & I know best how to comfort him. It's only when he's been crying for a bit tho not at the slightest noise.
It REALLY has irritated me cos she hasnt got kids and I guarantee that when she does she will not always be happy about other people holding hers. If I'm holding someones baby and they want them back I am 100% respectful of that!!
I have argued about this with mil before too. The way I see it yes I am an overprotective mum but I don't care, I'm not gonna listen to him crying with someone else misguidedly comforting when I know what he wants. He's my son not to be handed round like a parcel grrr xx
My OH told me this today. He said that she is fed up of me fussing around her when Gabe cries. That's really annoyed me. When Gabe cries and he is on someone else, yes I do go over and take him off them!! I'm his mum & I know best how to comfort him. It's only when he's been crying for a bit tho not at the slightest noise.
It REALLY has irritated me cos she hasnt got kids and I guarantee that when she does she will not always be happy about other people holding hers. If I'm holding someones baby and they want them back I am 100% respectful of that!!
I have argued about this with mil before too. The way I see it yes I am an overprotective mum but I don't care, I'm not gonna listen to him crying with someone else misguidedly comforting when I know what he wants. He's my son not to be handed round like a parcel grrr xx
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Ignore your sil she is jealous of what a lovely little boy you have!
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Also, personally if I'm holding someone elses baby and they start crying I cant wait to hand them back!!
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the simple fact is no one not even hubby knows our kids the way i do as im the one with them 24 / 7 so i know how to tell what it is they all want and need
Its my mil for me - she doesnt understand that i dont want her here all the time, nor do i want her bringing ollie 10,000 pressies everytime she arrives, and nor do i want her fawning all over him when he's upset.
But she gets upset when i tell her this, which upsets hubby because he thinks the sun shines out of her arse, and we've just had a big row because I said i'd like him to help me with xmas dinner and he said "oh just get my mum to help then I can have a day off...." Soo fuming. Am so sick of him trying to foist his bloody mother on me all the time!
Sorry, went off on one there.....
if she is really doing your head in with it then tell her straight - dont tell your OH to tell her because they wont ever get it right. If she gets upset then tell her that the only people that are no1 to you at the moment are your OH and your LO and she can go swing if she thinks you're going to put her feelings before your lo's.....
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That said, Louise has been passed round like a parcel all weekend while we've been visting friends and family. She's been fantastic aslong as she's had a toy in her hand and getting attention! But I have had to stay in the room while she's gone to sleep - am not sure if this is down to being unsettled because of having such busy days going to unknown places, seeing people she doesn't see very often, or that she just needed to know mummy is there!
I think the idea of leaving him cry once is a good idea - then maybe she'll see why you take him away.
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