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do you get on better or worse with other half since baby?
i think we're getting on better, sometimes i see my arse with him if he doesn't help out with stuff but generally we're getting on better, he seems like he's always at work and i get really down cuz he takes so much pressure off me with JJ when he's home so i can get other jobs done...it's good that JJ goes to bed at 9ish cuz then we have the evening to ourselves to watch a DVD or just generally have a cuddle on the sofa x
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Mine has never done HALF!!!! the child care, or the bed time routine or baths or nappies or any of that... I mean when I spent 8 days in hospital, I came home to find the kids were still in the same clothes I left them in, I didn't want to ask if their teeth had ever been done, and it was obvious they hadn't had their hair brushed, bathed, or anything more than bare survival, but he figures he is a man so should not have to do any of that stuff. The baby did have her nappies changed, but I wouldn't like to say how often. I text messaged him an exact menu of what to feed the kids and when and made sure that a tesco order was delivered to the house from my hospital bed, and it was still all out on the counters, they ate what was easiest (mind I hadn't asked him to make anything more difficult than scrambled eggs), every dish in the house was dirty and he'd ordered pizza with the money in my handbag when he could be bothered to do dishes.... he just spent all day mainly on his computer playing bloody games and didn't bother with the kids more than necessary. To be honest I mainly thought that's how all men acted?He's never done any house work, because he feels it's emasculinating (sp). He has always seen himself as a very "traditional" man and would never been seen doing any of the baby care or house work.
SO ladies do tell where exactly to you find these ridiculously wonderful men who help so much, or did they come like mine did and you taught them to behave differently?
Seriously because if I can upgrade... well sounds worth a bit of effort
We get on about the same - although we never used to argue and now we do, but i put that down to tiredness, and its just stupid squabbling over stuff like who gets to watch what on telly. I'm bf'ing so he doesn't have to do anything like that, but when Oscar wakes in the night he will change him so i can wake up and get a drink before i feed him, and he puts him back to bed when we're done feeding.
He plays with him, and is very affectionate - he can ALWAYS get a smile out of him. He cleans the bathrooms and the kitchen (i do the living rooms and bedrooms) and he cooks a couple of nights a week. I really don't know what i'd do without him, and i feel bad because i should tell him that more. xx
I cook, clean and do everything for the children. He does the occasional thing but mostly hes there for himself and for 'playtime' with the boys xx
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