help need sleep
Help please my lo is 20 months and about 3 months ago we put him in a bed but sice then he wakes up at 10 and yes we r bad he gets in wih us but doesnt really sleep he tosses and trns all night so i dont get any sleep at all and i am so tired we have only had a few good nights slep in the whole 20 months and i cant5 cope any more need advise .
i must stres we cant do controlled cdrying cos he just gets out of bed and he will wake his 5 yr old sister up as they share a room so dont think its fare n her to leave him to cry .
and we always put him to bed asleep as he falls asleep on my lap at around 830 we tryed putting him in bed awake but again he wakes his sister up and wont stay in bed any help gratefull neeed to sort this problem
i must stres we cant do controlled cdrying cos he just gets out of bed and he will wake his 5 yr old sister up as they share a room so dont think its fare n her to leave him to cry .
and we always put him to bed asleep as he falls asleep on my lap at around 830 we tryed putting him in bed awake but again he wakes his sister up and wont stay in bed any help gratefull neeed to sort this problem
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The only way to get this sorted is to spend a week sleep training him, Sorry. No other quick fixes or suggestions.
I'd suggest starting a bedtime routine and always putting him to bed awake so that he learns to settle himself. It's so hard though! But worth it in the end. Don't take him into your bed if you can help it- cos you're not getting more sleep anyway if he's disturbing you all night!
Be prepared for a tough few nights but stick with it! Good luck hun.
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As for getting out of bed, invest in a bed guard & if need be, push his bed against a wall so he cant get out the other side.
I understand what you are saying about it being easier & everything but tbh, none of you are getting any sleep so what have you got to lose except a couple of nights of upset. It will so be worth it in the long run. Sleep is a habit & your lo is learning really bad ones. if you dont' stop them now they will just continue to get worse.
Move your daughter out into big sisters room & spend a few nights sorting Tyler out.
i might try this over weekend mayb as she wouldnt mind sleeping on floor for a night or two mayb
Once he is in the habit of sleeping & going to bed alone it will be easy to move him back to his other room with his sister but def get a bed guard & if need be block him in with pillows till he undertsands that he isn't allowed to get up once in bed. I do this for Sonny, not cause he is getting up but cause he is such a wiggler & would fall out of bed loads if i didn't.
I know it sounds like hassle but trust me, it will be worth it for all of you. it can't be doing Tyler any good having disturbed sleep every night & you must be exhausted which probably has some knock on effects to your girls.
Good luck.