i feel gutted!
hi girls i dont mean to upset or offend anyone but i need to get it of my chest. was talking to my mate this morning and she was worried as she ahd bleeding and stomach cramps.. i told her to go to fhu but not to worry to much as she was over her 12 weeks and chsnces of mc were much less...
she has just rung to say she has lost the baby at 14 weeks. im so gutted! i dunno what to say to her i feel guilty that im carying a healthy baby at 23 weeks. i dunno what to say to her and im sure im the last person she is gunna wanna be around..
she has got to go back in tomorrow to have the baby delivered. how can they leave someone 24 hours knowing that ther baby is not there anymore.? its sick.
thought the pregnancy forum wasnt the best place to post this so u lot get it!
xx
she has just rung to say she has lost the baby at 14 weeks. im so gutted! i dunno what to say to her i feel guilty that im carying a healthy baby at 23 weeks. i dunno what to say to her and im sure im the last person she is gunna wanna be around..
she has got to go back in tomorrow to have the baby delivered. how can they leave someone 24 hours knowing that ther baby is not there anymore.? its sick.
thought the pregnancy forum wasnt the best place to post this so u lot get it!
xx
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My best friend found out she was pregnant just after we lost our lo and I couldn't see her for a long time but that was because I was an total idiot-nothing to do with her or her lo.
Take care and hope your friend pulls through.xx
This happened to me too (although I wasn't as far as your friend) and one of my closest friends was pregnant and I know she felt really awkward but we had a chat after a week and everything was fine.xxxx
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I would just give her some space and allow her to deal with it in her own way, maybe just send a text saying u are thinking of her and will be there whenever she feels ready. xxx
I imagine the reason she will have been left till tomorrow is because she will need a GA and they can't perform that when she will have had food and drink
A long time ago my cousin found out at her 20 week scan that she'd lost her baby and I thought the same as you - how can they leave someone with their baby inside them but having gone through a mmc (found out at 12 week scan) I now understand that you need time to get your head round what has happened before having to do anything. Its bad enough being told you've lost a baby but for me and I'd guess most people being told they would have to be admitted immediately would have been even worse - and being given the time to go home and have some space does help.
So long as she knows you are there for her and she's talking to you thats all you can do for the moment - it will be hard for her when your lo arrives but please don't feel guilty that your lo ok - I',m sure she wouldn't want you to.
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i'm afraid i don't have any advice or anything but i feel for both of you!
i was sound asleep in bed the other night when a text message woke me up and the first thing that popped into my head, within a split second was "stacey (SIL) has lost the baby" and a horrible feeling washed over me. The text was just a drunken mate being daft, but since then ive not been able to shift the awful feeling that somethings not right, she is approx 15weeks, and was due her first scan today at 4pm. i've not heard anything yet but am terrified somethings wrong with their baby!!
sorry... just crashed your post a bit there