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My OH is making my life hell - UPDATE
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Hi everyone, just thought i would let you know how things are going. Not good if am honest. I told him yesterday that we were going to feed her my way. He wasn't happy but I made her bottle and warmed a little food and he offered to feed her while i did our dinner. He gave her her food first then her bottle, i would have done it the other way but i as long as he was doing it. I was out the room 2 mins and when i came back he told me "she doesnt need all 6oz so av just given her 4oz". I said she'll take as much as she needs but i might as well have been talking to a brick wall. He was at work at tea time so I fed her the way I wanted. She is sick quite a bit afterwards and he now thinks am feeding he too much.
In the end he told me to "do what you like I dont care" But everytime she was sick i get "she's had too much, your giving her too much"
I dont know why she's being sick but am not going to let her down again and she is being fed by me and my way. We're not speaking but i cant help that.
Also spoke to my HV, she is so nice and i think i now know why he is being like this. I wont go into it, i could be here for hours.
Thanks again ladies for listening
I best go little missy has her injections at 10
kerry
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In the end he told me to "do what you like I dont care" But everytime she was sick i get "she's had too much, your giving her too much"
I dont know why she's being sick but am not going to let her down again and she is being fed by me and my way. We're not speaking but i cant help that.
Also spoke to my HV, she is so nice and i think i now know why he is being like this. I wont go into it, i could be here for hours.
Thanks again ladies for listening
I best go little missy has her injections at 10
kerry
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At times my oh has liked to tell me that shes crying cos of hunger etc when I know its not true. I just bite my tongue! good to hear you have support from you hv.
sorry, I havent exactly offered any adivce, I just didnt want to read and run
Being sick after feeds is pretty normal but at least you've got a nice hv so you can talk to her if your worried.
Take care x
Well done you for standing up for you and your daughter, stick at it and hopefully he'll come round to your way of feeding her.
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I've had it I cant take any more
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Hes not fat and has never had a problem with his weight.
She's had her injections today so she grumpy and been asleep quite a bit. I will have it out with him tomorrow when my son has gone to school and LO is in bed.
Sorry to hear things are not improving for you,it must be very upsetting and hard for you.
I dont know what to suggest,only to echo everyone else that your little girl needs her milk,and prob just being sick because she took alot of milk and shes not used to it.She can also have a taster of jarred food,your doing nothing wrong in this as you know,but I simply cannot understand why your OH is reacting this way!you say you have an idea so I hope this will help you to resolve things with him in time,or at the very least partly understand why he's being this way.
Was/is he controlling towards you?Is this just another way of controlling you?Could he be slightly jealous of the new baby?I just am looking for answers for you!
Chat to your HV you need some help and support "out there",not just on here.
All the best x
well you have our support, your totally doing the right thing in feeding both food and milk...if it was one or the other it would e called swapping or changing...not WEEEAAANNNNing!
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U'l rather hav him bothered than him not care at all, make him undastand ur decisions nicely n not like his stupid or wrong n he'l feel bad 4 past reactions. Hope I,v bin able to help cos I feel so sorry 4 ur lo who's in the middle of it all. Jus realised wen it cums to men dey r jus big babies who need time n explainin 2 undastand things n goodluck
Sending my hugs n we r all here 4 u n also al babies throw up as long as she puttin on weight dere's nothin 2 be worried bout.
Where abouts in the lakes do you live? Do you drive? I live south lakes so if you want to you could always come round or meet me somewhere if you needed to get away...?
you need to get someone to intervene with him and tell him in no uncertain terms that he is harming his child and he could be prosecuted if things got that bad... she needs to eat a lot more than he is letting her just to be able to grow and develop normally.
Please dont give in to doing things his way again, is there somewhere you could hide food to stop him throwing them away?
I'm here if you need someone, you can email and we can meet if you want.
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I have found with ym husband that sometimes when a professional tells him something Ive been telling him for ages he finally understands what Ive been telling him.
You say you have a son but your oh wasnt like this with him. Therefore there is obviously some reason why he is acting like this. How much time do you two spend together as a couple. Has he always been controlling or only to do with feeding. Is he jealous of the bond you have with your children? ALthough I cant understand why he wouldnt want to be doing things in your los best interest.
Thinking of you and sending you *hugs* xxx
Good luck and stay strong.
If you need to talk we're all here love.
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Thankyou
Hi tallkatie am not scared of him and yes he's a tosser.
We've been together 15yrs why is he doing this to me. He's breaking my heart
Will reply tomorrow though as I have to go bed now and try to get some sleep before my lil monster wakes me up tomorrow. Take it easy.
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Thats the one I meant stephe - and i was confused - its near J35,not J36. I am directionally challenged!!
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