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How to tell parents...
Hi All,
I'm 23 and have just found out I'm pregnant but I have only been with my boyfriend for four months (although feels like forever and we have discussed marriage and babies etc). I own my own home although I'm living with my parents temporarily (long story). My boyfriend will sell his place and move in with me. I have a job that I love which pays well and I have been doing for nearly five years which has great maternity benefits. The thing is, the baby was planned, we just didn't think I would get pregnant so quickly (it all came about after we had a scare a couple of months ago and realised how disappointed we were when the test was BFN). However, I feel like I have to tell people the baby was an accident as we haven't been together very long and I think people will judge us. I'm also scared my parents will say I'm too young but I don't feel it and have felt broody for a long time even before I met my boyfriend. What would you do in my situation? Should I tell my parents the baby is very much wanted? (both of us were ecstatic when we found out). I just want them to be as happy about it as we are, I'm scared they will be disappointed. Any advice much appreciated.
Thanks ladies!!
I'm 23 and have just found out I'm pregnant but I have only been with my boyfriend for four months (although feels like forever and we have discussed marriage and babies etc). I own my own home although I'm living with my parents temporarily (long story). My boyfriend will sell his place and move in with me. I have a job that I love which pays well and I have been doing for nearly five years which has great maternity benefits. The thing is, the baby was planned, we just didn't think I would get pregnant so quickly (it all came about after we had a scare a couple of months ago and realised how disappointed we were when the test was BFN). However, I feel like I have to tell people the baby was an accident as we haven't been together very long and I think people will judge us. I'm also scared my parents will say I'm too young but I don't feel it and have felt broody for a long time even before I met my boyfriend. What would you do in my situation? Should I tell my parents the baby is very much wanted? (both of us were ecstatic when we found out). I just want them to be as happy about it as we are, I'm scared they will be disappointed. Any advice much appreciated.
Thanks ladies!!
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I'm 19 and 29+2 with my first. me and my bf had been together for 3 weeks before i got pregnant, and our parents are fine about it. my parents were really shocked and everything at first because i was supposed to be starting college in september but they've come round and are really excited.
its completely natural and if you're both happy and want the baby then that's the best situation you could be in. Obviously it'll be a strain on your relationship (my bf and i have had numerous arguments about the situation but are now stronger than ever) so i think you should tell them that this is very much a planned pregnancy. and if they judge you for wanting a baby with someone you've been with for four months then that's their prerogative but don't let that make you feel bad about anything.
Congrats on the pregnancy and hope you have a really happy and healthy 9 months.
good luck with everything!
lau89
29+2
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Firstly congratulations!!
I was 22 when we found out I was pregnant. We had been trying for 3 months. I told my mam when I was about 6 weeks and she was shocked but happy for us. My OH is 39 there is 16 years between us so we wanted to have children sooner rather than later, we have been together 5 years, and I know my OH will make a great dad. We are not married or engaged - this baby is more important to us at the moment. I managed to get me mam to keep it a secret till we were 11 weeks and then I told the rest of my family. To OHs family at about 6 weeks too and they were over the moon for us. No one sees me as 23 they think Im alot older so I guess that helps with any steriotypes. I think you should be honest with the fact that baby was planned. I made it clear that this baby is very much planned incase someone was to say something in years to come.
They will get over any disappointment when they see your baby in 9 months time!
Good luck!
Emma
38+2 (almost there!!!)
I have the opposite problem with my mum! I'm 20 been with OH for 2.5years, we have a mortgage, car, good jobs etc.. when I told my mum I was pregnant she was happy, but when I didn't invite her to my 12week scan she was really upset, saying I didn't want her involved, I was pushing her away, she went to all my sisters scans... That wasn't the case atall, it was something me & OH felt we needed to do alone, for sentimental reason's, & incase something did go wrong, we wanted to deal with it together! Anyway, we had the scan, & she dealt with it, she didn't have a choice!! You have to be honest, & do what's right for you & OH, you can't please everyone, as I have learnt!!!
Butterfly
18+4 x
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Good luck.
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i think u should tell ur parents exactly what uv just told us!! im sure they wont judge u!!
im 22 almost 23, h2b is 26 and our parents were over the moon.... even though mum didnt believe me to start with lol.
i think if they see u r happy and excited they may well react better than if u are not so sure!!
good luck.... let us know what u decide and let us know how u get on
Louise
11wks
I found out I was pregnant when I was 24, had been with other half for just over a year and I was terrified to tell my mum and dad but when I did they were so excited and have been the best parents ever throughout the whole thing. Our baby is due tomorrow and now me and my oh couldn't imagine it any other way.
Good luck, things always work out for the best in the end!
Linz
39+6
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However, I sadly woke up to bleeding this morning and my GP has confirmed I am probably having a mc. I am devestated to say the least. Life is cruel sometimes isn't it? Take care of yourselves everyone x
I hope the GP has got it wrong, but if not then I am sure things will work out for you really soon.
Take good care of yourself, and loads of sticky baby dust!
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take care
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Amy. x