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thanks for replys, just deleted coz my sis said she going to join soon arrrrr iv been asking her for ages and what a day to pick, i hope its deleted.... shit
[Modified by: hayleyspirit on 06 February 2009 13:30:21 ]
[Modified by: hayleyspirit on 06 February 2009 13:30:21 ]
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Personally I would try and speak to your sister to air your concerns but if you feel you cant or you wont get anywhere then I would speck to social services, I know people will not agree with me about that but they are there to help and support not just to take children away from their parents.
Your sister probably cant let herself believe that something bad could be happening to her son.
I think you have to do something though it's difficult as if he is being ill treated (which it sounds like he is) or if something really bad happens then then you'll never forgive yourself for not taking some action. I really dont think that a 4 year old could make up so much stuff that seems to be so consistent with other events - eg the being scared at night and telling you about daddy threatening to cut him. Does he have any marks on his body that seem suspicious?
Could you invite your sister over for a sleepover with her son - have a girly night and maybe have a heart-to-heart when the children are in bed.
You could phone social services anonymously for advice, or the nspcc? I would hope they could give you advice without you having to give your sister details.
Not much to add really as I am useless at giving advice, but it does sound like he is scared of his dad & he is mentally and possibly physically abusing him and also scaring the poor child. Its very sad.
Hayley & loopy loo have given some great advice, I too would have a heart to heart with your sister about it before anything else xx
my nephew then came on the phone to me and i was speaking about toys and i told him what jayden was doing and he said i dont like jayden he punched my head early and called me a poo head! so its soo hard what to belive anymore... just going to see my sister more and giv suppurt if they need me.. and i can keep a closer eye on her wanker of a husband.. i have told my mum my suspisions and she will be checking onto them more.. thanks for the advice was appreciated will bear it in mind
hayley1 when i say smack its only a light smack either on his hand or bum but usullay they do the naughty spot.. xxx
I just had to respond to this post.
I really feel for you and from the information you have posted i do think something is happening to this little boy.
children pick up on situations around them and copy and the outburst in the morning sound to me to be him copying, i can just imagine the boys dad chucking his toys and being nasty to him.
I agree with everyone else, you do need to do something. I agree a girly night with the bully out the way is a good idea, you could have a few glasses of wine and then broach the subject gently, that way even if she gets angry and defensive she can't drive home with the little mite.
Children should be loved and cherished it sounds clear this little boys dad doesn't like him let alone love or cherish him.
You have to say/do something and if your sister won't stick up for her son then you have to and i'd consider involving the authorities. if only someone had done this for baby p he could still be alive and living a happy safe life.
[Modified by: Joey08 on February 06, 2009 01:46 PM]